I was (amazingly) the first commenter on this story, and spoke of at least two grandmothers who didn't want to take care of or look after their grandchildren.

To be clear, this is not to do with their sons/daughters wanting to dump their own kids on granny. No. This is about even when the kids themselves want to spend some alone time with grandma, grandma doesn't want to have anything to do with it.

In terms of us living in a selfish culture where we dump kids on grandparents because we want to go do our own thing, let me remind everyone here that in most of the world, the family unit is far more connected and interdependent than the United States/Western world. You expect grandparents to take care of little ones because you're also taking care of the grandparents. It all works together. Of course, in the US, and especially in the middle and upper-middle class, we're more accustomed to the grandparents being self-sufficient, income-wise. And our families are fragmented to begin with - we're expected to move out and be on our own once we graduate high school, ferchrissakes. So maybe the whole grandma-watching-grandkid thing isn't just about mom getting a chance to get the grocery shopping done in peace, or (god forbid) some time to herself once in a while. Maybe it's also about connecting generations, and that might be becoming less and less important in the US. Which is sad.

My family is kind of a mix of both - three generations live in one big house, and then others of us live close by. We see each other occasionally. I would never expect my mothers (I'm including the in-laws) to watch my kids, but my father-in-law and mother-in-law have already offered, even though I don't have any yet! Baby pressure, much?

So maybe grandmothers in the US shouldn't be obligated to babysit, but I think the discussion is not just about that, but about whether grandmothers want to spend any alone time with their grandchildren at all.

That is all.

Reading this letter I found myself conflicted. On the one hand, there's nothing wrong with liking the occasional threesome. But on the other, the LW seems only to be taking his own needs into account.

For instance, he's put off by women talking about their past sexual experiences in threesomes. He wants the threesomes to be in a strict control setting - mutually agreed upon, etc.

Like others here, I'd suggest he give some form of polyamory a shot. Not just because it would enable his fantasy of threesomes, but because it would make him put the needs of his partner on the same level as his own and learn just why this letter reeks of the kind of selfish and boorish attitude he claims he doesn't have. Both he and his partner would be able to negotiate and fulfill their needs in a primary relationship, while indulging other needs in secondary relationships, which may occasionally include threesomes. Yes, there will be jealousy and trust issues. No, polyamory is not right for everyone. But I think in this case it would enable the LW to learn some important things about himself, and perhaps to unlearn some of the bad habits that are keeping him out of the sexually (and, perhaps we should add, emotionally) fulfilling relationship he desires.

Everybody learned on the playground that when another kid takes your toy away, you don't hit them. You learn to negotiate and settle things peacefully, even if you're hopping mad.

Attacking him with the chair may seem amusing because it's a woman attacking her husband whom she's caught cheating on her, but if the tables were turned it would be different, wouldn't it? And what does it say about us that we find it funny that a woman - rightly outraged - would attack her husband? Is it because we think of women as weak and meek, and this show of aggression is just so gosh-darned cute?

No, I'm sorry. Not acceptable.

The only time anyone should be excused from domestic violence is when they are defending themselves against physical abuse. I think leniency and counseling should be given to women who are continuously beaten and psychologically and physically tortured for years, who kill their husbands as their only (perceived or real) way out, for instance.

But this woman, although she was certainly wronged, should not be lionized for such childish behavior.

This seems pretty cut and dried to me. She doesn't want to have that child, she shouldn't have to, regardless of the reason. End of story. If you're going to blame anyone in this scenario, blame the lab who mixed up the embryos.

A lot of people also bring up the gender selection in countries like India and China argument as a reasoning against abortion, but this is where I think education comes into play. Don't take away fundamental women's rights for... the sake of women's rights. Educate, inform, and allow people to make their own choices, ferchrissake.