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Friday, October 12, 2007 03:41 PM

Advice

As I read through these letters, because I have nothing better to do at the moment, and work is rather boring today, I wonder why it is that no one has advised LW to talk to her husband about her sexual issues and her sexual fantasies?

When I read her letter the words that stick out the most to me are; "our sex life is unspectacular."

Having had a long string of extremely sexual relationships since I was 19, sex is of course a top priority in my life, and it remains so, and one of the main reasons why sex in my marriage is still spectacular, is it that even after 8 years of marriage my wife and I are still able to talk casually about our sexual needs.

LW it seems like the real issue that you are having is that your sexual needs are not being met, and I have to tell you that that is not a good reason to be unfaithful. I recommend that you not bring in a third party into your picture before you have at least gone to your husband to workout ways to bring a spark to you and your husband's bedroom.

The worse case scenario is that your husband won't be compliant even if you work with him to improve your sex life, and in that case I would recommend going to drastic measures, by giving some serious thought to professional marriage counseling with an emphasis on the fact that you are not happy in the status quo of your marriage.

Sexually issues should be dealt with quickly, and with good communication any sexual issue can quickly be resolved. And in my opinion great communication makes for great sex. How much do you talk to husband about your fantasies? Obviously you have a lot to offer in any discussion on the topic of sex, and I can't imagine that too many men would not be seriously turned on by your sexual thoughts (also there is a chance that you husband may not be entirely against the idea of you exploring your bisexual nature, as long as you keep him in high regard in your picture).

Friday, October 12, 2007 04:59 PM

I wonder!!!

What will Dubya do after his term is finished? You would assume that he would get a job with the Carlyle Group, but I have hard time imagining that Dubya's abysmal decision making, financial handling, and leadership credentials would be very appealing to the Carlyle Group, and it's hard to imagine that Dubya's name associated with the Carlyle Group would bring in much investment. I am sure he will get a book deal, but how many people are really going to be interested in reading about Dubya's opinion? Dubya pursuing non-profit charity work seems even less likely, as his only passion is to make corporations richer, so maybe he might try to get back into politics. Correct me if I am wrong, but I believe Dubya is term limited as Texas' governor, carpet bagging would be completely out of the question for him, so that would leave him with only the option of being a Senator from Texas (or as a representative or mayor some place else). Do Texans love Dubya enough to make him one of their Senators?

My guess is that Dubya will retire to his ranch, and spend all of his days clearing brush and riding his bike on backyard trails, and avoiding angry mothers of dead soldier that will want to give him a piece of their mind (or their foot up his ass).

We didn't hear much from Nixon after he left office.

Friday, October 12, 2007 06:36 PM

The Repub Ex.

Reagan suffered from Alzheimer's, but Ron Jr. and his mother have played a big role in trying to get stem cell research funded by the federal government.

Bush the elder worked full time for the Carlyle group, and made money, and he has ran the circuits as Clinton's side kick after the 2 were assigned the task of shoring up aid for Tsunami relief.

Ford did a little bit of work with Carter, but for the most part he just hit the golf course, though we did see a lot from his great wife.

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