(This time I am being completely honest) I have never juggled 2 or more women at the same time, but with 2 married women (not at separate times) I was the other man, which may explain why I felt compelled to defend Cheater to an extend. I would like to remember that I was genuinely loved by both of the married women that pursued me in my early twenties. Actually being the other man has a lot of exhilaration to it. First off you know she is not after you for your money, because they are usually financially well off with their husbands. Secondly their demands of you are going to be minimal, and you can kind of treat them like a part time job (little responsibility and lots of time off). And lastly you can break off the relationship at a moment's notice with very little drama. In short it is the ideal relationship for a young man who wants great sex, with little emotional attachment. And of course there is the added romantic thrill of working hard to keep everything a secret. Maybe they did objectify me, but when they came to me, and it was always them coming to me, it felt like it was my love for them that was giving them comfort (and to the best of my knowledge no one ever got hurt).

Maybe someday I may have to answer for what I did, but I didn’t lie, I didn’t live a lie, and I did not directly betray anyone.

Yeah, I was intentionally trying to over do it with the 3 women story, as the best lies to later back track on, are the ones that are most outrageous.

I'm stressed out just juggling my kids. How the men in Islamic country's are able to do it, I have no idea, but it might explain why they are so uptight (but actually every Arab man I have talked to was the most relaxed characters you could imagine).

I meant to write (at separate times). No, I have never been in a threesome.

"To me, married men who hire prostitutes for any sexual activity are sluts, but we see the whore/cunt/slut label applied most often to women."

I meet a lot of such men in my line of work, but rather I think of them as desperate and pathetic. Also when I think of "male slut," I think of a male character that has no principles as to which women he goes home with or brings home, and most men are not offended when you call them a slut. In fact most men take pride after having been called a slut, as it implies that they are easily able to get into women's pants. The difference between men and women, is that slut is not a label that any woman would take pride in. In my youth I wondered if women would ever take pride in the number of men that they have slept with (kind of like Samantha in Sex and The City), and surprisingly I have noticed that the new batch of young women does to an extent, but I am not so certain that it is a good thing.

To Pralines & Cream

Based on Cheater's letter, I can't say whether or not I would find her interesting. I have been in open relationships with girlfriends in the past, but the idea of being in an open marriage does make me cringe (I could in theory share a woman, as long as I never met the other guy, had the woman at least half of the time, and the kids were still taken care of by myself and her. But I am glad that is not the custom in America) When I was with married women (that were not my wife, before I got married), I justified what they were doing, by telling myself that I was glad that they loved their husbands and still talked good of them, even around me (sometimes I would provoke them to say nice things about their husbands, like "he really cares about me"). I liked the idea of being the part time man, and not the star character in those relationships.

The only thing that bugs me about Cheater, is that she does not say much about her husband, other than that she does not want to leave him. Does she still love him? Why has she suddenly decided to cheat on him after 6 years of being faithful to him? There is something that she is not telling us. I think the real reason that she wants to cheat, is because she is a lapper, wanting a new man.

Cheater should probably try to figure out what she really wants, and for some reason I doubt that juggling a husband and a lover is what she really wants.

What would I do if I caught my wife cheating on me? It depends on the circumstances, but it would take at least 10 pages to write my answer.

The act of cheating is a lot more complex than anyone here has given the behavior credit and criticism.