My fiance's father was the sole sibling to leave his mediterranean country and move to the states. This of course, created similar discords within his family over the years... his solution, he rents a small cottage every year in a town near his family. When he or we travel, we advise all in advance when we are coming. We make plans with those who express a desire to see us, either at their home or ours. The rest, we let them know how to get in touch and they know where we can be found. We do not bend over backwards, we enjoy wonderful dinners and visits from joyous friends and family. And yes, we hear about how aunt this or cousin that complained that we didn't invite them to dinner or stop by their house, but all is well because we sent letters and made phone calls prior to our trip opening our home and itinerary to all. IF they don't come a calling, we don't worry.

I highly recommend finding a place of your own to stay each visit. If you can get the same place everytime, all the better! This allows you to set the pace and ensure that your husband and children get to have their own space and time in the place that you call home!

Getting any type of cosmetic surgery is a personal choice, so I truly have no right to provide my opinion. That being said, I'm going to anyway. 1) As a very small breasted woman (e.g I don't even fit into an A cup bra) I thought I wanted implants for a while. But you know what? Lots of people, men and women, think I'm sexy the way I am. Translation: Different strokes for different folks! Not every man is a breast man. Many are leg or ass men. Many think a woman with nice feet are hot. Seriously, what people think is hot and sexy is as diverse as there are people to fill each ideal. 2)The catch-22 about breast implants: if you have naturally small breasts with very little fatty breast tissue, your implants will never look natural. They will look like you slapped half of an orange on each side of your chest. In order to have implants look real, you need to have the tissue to fill in around the implant itself. See Posh Spice, for example. Her implants are small and reasonable in size and yet we all can tell they are implants and not natural breasts.

Anyhow, good luck with your choice. I would recommend waiting a while. They won't make you any happier with yourself.

First of all, you are not the only person to have lost a lot of value in their retirement account. You have 25 years to recover those losses... relax. You and your husband should have a financial planner (I suggest a fee-based planner with a CFP designation) that you meet with regularly, like every other year or upon an important change in your life, such as marraige, children, divorce or retirement. The planner should be able to provide you with a projection of how much you have, how much you need and what changes you will need to make to meet your retirement income goals. They could range from increasing savings, to decreasing expenses, to delaying retirement. S/he should address other important aspects of your financial health. S/he should not pressure you to purchase anything from her/him... although, if you feel that your planner has done a great job, you may want to work with him/her to implement your plan because s/he's already shown competence and reliability. Then you should take the plan and go with it, follow its guidance, save where you need to save, cut back where you can... its amazing how relaxing it is to have a plan.