Letters to the Editor
cim902
Published Letters: 70 Editor's Choice: 13
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I hate to say this, but....
[Read the article: My ex-con neighbor owes me money]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]not everyone is a remarkable human being. And honestly, the next time this man's son does something like vandalize your stuff, call the police. The system is screwy, it doesn't work for everyone, but who knows? The kid's father isn't doing a stellar job. Maybe if the boy faces the consequences of his actions early, he won't end up like his father.
As far as Cary's advice goes. It seems nice, but I think many other more savvy respondents have a better handle on what's going on here. If you do want to settle with him, perhaps you should approach it the way credit cards do (or did to me, a long time ago). They offered an amount (a percentage of what I owed and had long struggled to pay) and gave me a date (Ok, pretty much that week). I took it and that was it. Oh, and as far as small claims court goes..at least in our state, if they find against him, he's liable for the debt and court costs, and sometimes "treble damages" (3 times the amt of the debt). If he does not pay up, or make an arrangement which he keeps, the court can (eventually) garnish his wages. Still, in the end I agree with your fiancee--let it go, and have nothing else to do with them.
Best wishes!
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When I read your letter....
[Read the article: I left an abusive marriage, and now I'm in love with a thief]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW, I can hear my MIL talking. She too ended a very long marriage with a jerk, but now she is dating, and unable to see problems with men that are evident to anyone else. Right now, we are struggling to convince her that the old high school friend she met while he was cheating on his girlfriend and now wants to marry, is just as capable of lying to her as he was to his long-term girlfriend. "Oh, he's not like that," she says, "you just don't know him like I do." Excuse me??????
Obviously we have all had our youthful indiscretions--some much more serious than others. But there is a difference between, say, something that one did at 17, and something that one did just last year, or five years ago (when did he steal from this relative?). I think that when he is telling you these things, he is telling you who he is, and you need to listen.
Ask yourself--if your daughter were telling you about this man, what would you tell her? I'm betting you would tell her to run fast and run far--and you would be right. You've gone through the mill, you deserve someone better. Please get this man out of your life and go find it.
Best wishes,
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Pilot salaries.....
[Read the article: Ask the pilot]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Everytime we fly somewhere safely, I feel like tipping the pilot and crew a million bucks (if I had it!). They are worth more than every penny they make, as far as I'm concerned!
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A very honest article
[Read the article: The baby I turned away]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You will probably never stop wondering about this little girl, or worrying about her, or hoping for her, or praying for her, but that is because you are a decent, loving person--and you did the decent, loving thing by admitting that you and your husband weren't ready for this kind of challenge. Life is not a Hallmark movie--we have to be wise enough to realize this and not try to play out rescue fantasies with a child's life. There are parents out there who are able to raise children who have serious disabilities with realistic expectations and realistic outcomes. At this point in your life, you and your husband realized that you are not among them, and there is nothing wrong with that. Don't think that you were selfish in turning down the referral. Instead, you were doing what you will be doing hundreds of times in the next seveal decades--that is, putting a child's best interests ahead of your own desires. Best wishes to you and your family.