Letters to the Editor
crimchick
Published Letters: 41 Editor's Choice: 6
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Some people shouldn't marry
[Read the article: My wife wants to join the Peace Corps]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]i.e. anyone who thinks that two years apart during marriage is totally reasonable. Take it from someone who is married and wants to save the world: my marriage always comes first, no matter how many orphans are hungry. Your goals don't end when you get married, but preservation of the marriage should take priority over individual pursuits. There will come a time when your dreams/job/etc. will be more important, and times when your spouse's will. The decision is made as a couple, and you always do what is best for the couple. The LW's situation isn't a consequence of marrying young, but it is definitely a sign of profound immaturity. Your wife is thinking about herself, and not her family, which you are a part of. Either she is too selfish and immature to be married, or she wants out and can't find an honorable way to say it. Let her go, her priorities obviously lie elsewhere.
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Strippers are gross anyways
[Read the article: Bachelor, meet bachelorette party]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I am lucky enough to be marrying a man who loathes strip clubs and most dumb laddie behaviors. Because of our mutual friends and interests, we're having a party together. It's no big deal. Actually, I think the notion of the "bachelor(ette) party" is quite stupid, should you really be doing it at all if you can't do it with your spouse? I've seen way too many parties spiral into the "last night of freedom" BS, and it's nice to see this is a trend. Maybe it's a sign that people are taking marriage a lot more seriously than the right wants to think, despite the really negative influence of all those darn gays :-)
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That's not liberation
[Read the article: Live girl-on-girl action!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...it's desperation. If you have to fake-dyke it out with another chick to make guys like you, you're probably really unappealing overall. Hooray for low self-esteem!
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I'll tell you why the top ten is all female...
[Read the article: She's No. 1]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]ajbuckle, the reason is because in a lot of these neighborhoods the girls can't aspire to much higher than being a girlfriend/babymomma of one of those drugged out gangster males if they don't have an education. Those girls know it. There isn't a boy crisis, these girls (and many others) are simply aware of where they stand without an education. Girls know they have to work harder, walk the line, and do everything better in order to not get into a position where they have to rely on some loser to take care of them. Maybe as women assume more dominant positions in society and industry, the men will realize that the tragedy is not that education is slanted, but that the boys are too stubborn to play catch-up. Stop blaming women, and hit the damn books.
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Oh, spare me
[Read the article: She's No. 1]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I fond it really hard to believe that the girls in this neighborhood are given more or better educational opportunities than the boys. In my experience, kids in those neighborhoods are given damn near nothing regardless of gender. I will agree that not all the boys in these neighborhoods are losers, I may have chosen my words poorly in that case. But the point remains: women have a lot of incentives to gain independence, and I'm sure that seeing how other women in situations similar to theirs can end up is a powerful motivator. Whether it's being co-dependent on a man, their parents, etc., it seems that society is less willing to accept female failure, since they've been given so many breaks if you ask ajbuckle. It seems like boys can get away with flaunting their mediocrity and can be rewarded for it, while girls don't get the same luxury. How much affection do you think society would have for female versions of George Bush or Larry the Cable Guy? The fact remains, girls have to work harder, and I think the successful ones know that. In an area like Fremont, where the playing field is level at close to zero, the boys' only disadvantage is their complacency.
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New Times URL
[Read the article: The lost boys of Colorado City]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]http://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/Issues/current/polygamy/index.html
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It's like swimming in a T-shirt!
[Read the article: The itsy-bitsy bikini's antithesis]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I remember when I was younger, lots of girls I knew would swim with a t-shirt over their suit because they thought they were fat or were attempting to be modest. It was impossible to swim! You'd get all tangled up in it, and you just looked like a dork stuck in a big, wet garbage bag. These suits are kind of like that, except with a barfugly print and a high price tag. There's even one that is like, a full-length skirt! It's in complicance with my dress code at work, for the love. Is the goal of this to not draw attention to one's self? Because wearing a pup tent at the beach will definitely get you noticed!
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It is a matter of choice, but...
[Read the article: This is not your mother's polygamy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Ravenwood hit on an important part of this argument- that some of the women who participate in these relationships are not presented with a complete choice. They are given away by their fathers, promised to a man that they are spiritually obligated to marry in order to maintain their own standing and often, their family's salvation and survival in the community. The church elders who play matchmaker have a huge hand in determining where wives are assigned, and can basically make or break a family's standing. The "good wives" get hoarded by the elders, while the lesser wives are given to less desirable suitors. Men who flout the order are given no wives, and thus are outcasts. I'm all for the freedom to marry as one pleases, but the current state of polygamy is rife with abuse. The Phoenix New Times has done an amazing series on polygamy, check it out.
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Oops!
[Read the article: This is not your mother's polygamy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I meant Ravenwing, my apologies!