There is no worse combination than that of

being demanding and helpless.

Ah that quiet suffering, told only to pen and paper. Revolting strategy to say the least.

That shameless self promoting in not allowing one´s spouse to share, that disgusting fashion of putting up with everything to mark an effective stop to the growing up of both.

I find Cary Tennis advice ridiculous. Instead out with it all and see the real problem as how to do it for constructive solutions.

Divorce is no solution ever.

Unless physical and mental abuse is involved when it is absolutely necessary for the sake of sheer survival.

It is surely not the relationship as such that is not "completely right". I bet you that the entire life situation for this girl is not "completely right".

She might beging there.

And then one hopes she will grow up enough to see that

the idea of happiness let alone living to find someone more deserving one´s capacity of love is not much of a goal.

It is a chapter in philosphy.

Life is a very different matter.

That ex in a lesbian affair really has a heart of cucumber fried in snow. Get out of that mess and leave the husband to his own sorrows.

Serves him right darling.

Is there a secret deal between Bill Clinton and Obama that Obama take over the burden of Hillary´s calling day and night on the phone?

Why else pick this frustrated piece of all-American womanhood?

Naturally she will be greeted by smiles from the international community, every smile like the silver fittings of a coffin.

Why can´t Hillary be satisfied with an ambassadorship put her in Paris where she will learn how to dress. Not a bad

place at her age.

The Obama administration is being built on consensus and

a collection of bright brains - it is a wonderful show.

If one is allowed to mention it, in Europe as well the tendency for Presidents such as centre-conservativet Sarkozy in France is to compose a government in picking the best and the brighest also from the opposition party, the socialists.

This made the socialist party furious but those picked such as Foreign minister Bernard Kouchner has quickly become one of the most popular members of Sarkozy´s team while assuring that he is still a socialist at heart. In reality however he is a Sarkozy boy.

Some change and for the better.

To fall in love with a man where he is king is a wonderful thing. And the first duty of a woman must be never to move that man into a lesser place as Belger does.

Cannot help thinking hos Simone de Beauvoir dealt with the dilemma of finding the love of her life in a not very elegant Chicago on a lecture tour in 1949 in Nelson Algren.

Physical bliss for the first time is no bad thing for a girl let alone a Parisian intellectual. Her letters to him on her return shows her as forgetting that she has spent

all her intellectual training to refuse the bourgeois virtues of love and marriage. She wishes to be "little housewife".

Algren likes that and wishes her to come to Chicago and be his wife.

He visits her in Paris several times always loaded with gifts and - in stark contrast to anti-bourgeois Sartre - never forgets presents to her mother. There is nothing like a thoughtful American!

He has little understanding of all else in her life being very far outside his Chicago kingdom. He cannot fathom the position de Beauvoir has made for herself with Sarte in Paris.She however understands what it will mean to leave Paris for Chicago. No physical bliss kan take that away from her mind.

He is dealt the final knockout as the man she loves when she details their love affair in one of her books.

Cruel? Of course. But not half as cruel as the blows dealt the poor bloke of the Belger story.

Seems you have forgotten that Jackie Kennedy had her hair straightened during her time in the White House.

Men and their testosterone levels are rarely discussed as a problem and not at all when autism is at hand. Why is this?

There are many religions that do promise men the right to the phallocratic paradise.

To go on living in the misogynic Christian part of the world it is a help to do it in the company of brains perhaps better than your own.

The one book to carry with you at all times is for instance Ellen Moers ´ Literary Women where she analyses the secret codes handed down through the centuries and across national borders among French British and American women writers.

Dating from 1976 this book is an absolute must.

Apart of course from Simone de Beauvoir´s The Second Sex from 1949 hopefully in a better translation these days.

And do become as convinced a Cartesian as the French Secretary of the Treasury,Christine Lagarde.

Treat yourself to grand friends.