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Tuesday, December 6, 2005 11:36 PM

Men are sort of interested in some things gay because women seem to be and

they are interested in women who like men. I defy you to find a straight man who would be interested, apart from wanting to please his girlfriend or as a political statement, in two guys getting it on. Why is it so inconcieveable that some men are as interested in gay sex as they would be interested in eating a rock to satisfy hunger.

Wednesday, December 7, 2005 12:02 AM

There's a difference between homophobia and lack of interest

It's possible to have total comfort with AND total lack of interest in something.

Wednesday, December 7, 2005 02:45 PM

How can a false rape accusation ever be proven

Apart from a tape recorded confession that the entire story was fabricated. It's he said she said either way. Doesn't a woman therefore, provided she is mad enough to go through the hassle, enjoy an absolute right, in practice, to make false accusations?

Wednesday, December 7, 2005 10:43 PM

One of the problems in discussing the situation is that the "now you know what women have had to

deal with" is interpreted by a lot of men reading it as a taunt or as gloating and not a sincere attempt to commiserate or discuss the issue.

Thursday, December 8, 2005 12:52 AM

People can't help how they feel, but

I think it's safe to assume that if you marry someone and then don't want them around but want to see them a few times a week to get laid they will wonder why you married them.

Thursday, December 8, 2005 11:29 AM
Original article: A (really) few good men

This illustrates the importance of innate gender differences.

Any system will inevitable favor one gender or the other unless it is specifically consciously designed to deal with the actual differences in order to include both.

Thursday, December 8, 2005 11:51 AM
Original article: A (really) few good men

I read an article about this subject and the ONLY thing they talked about was the fact

that women at some schools were fighting openly over the few available men, paragraph after paragraph after maybe a sentence or two wondering about what other effects might be. That is literally all they talked about. Men are biologically dispensable and always have been, and when there aren't constant wars to kill off vast numbers they often have to stick most of the population in monastaries to get them out of the way, as in Tibet. In fact it is very obvious that the disucssion is being conducted very carefully, there's not much of a problem with the idea that women would make all the money and decisions but there is some anxiety about how you could successfully convert the male population into docile, competent and monogamous sperm donors/babysitters/housekeepers. I think maybe there's not much need to worry.

Thursday, December 8, 2005 11:08 PM

The benefit is that you can ruin someones life at no cost to yourself of someone

you feel has injured you, made you mad, or done you wrong in any way! What is wrong with you? Statements from women like "I can't image.. blah blah blah" implying (without being willing to say so openly) that no woman would ever do anything nasty are one of the reasons men don't believe women when they say they are interested in real communication as opposed to control via propaganda. Of course the consequences of being accused will vary with circumstances but they are ususally significant and with no chance of ever being found out it is incocieveable that angy women don't pull this stunt. I agree there is probably no way to know specifics.

Thursday, December 8, 2005 11:11 PM

The difficulties of convicting someone of rape are an entirely seperate issue.

It takes evidence to convict but NO EVIDENCE TO ACCUSE and the accustion itself usually causes real problems.

Thursday, December 8, 2005 11:15 PM

Is it possible for me to make statments on this matter without

being considered an apologist for rape? I an genuinely curious about this.

Thursday, December 8, 2005 11:43 PM

Everyone has their preferences, obsesssions or whatever

but you rarely hear men saying they've opted out of sex and relationships because they can't find anyone worthy of them and women, or so I hear in the media, (no one ever said this to me personally LOL) say this all the time. Assuming this in any way reflects reality it is a real difference between the sexes and not just another example of dueling grievances.

Friday, December 9, 2005 12:24 AM

There isn't a simple answer.

Parents don't have an obligation to tell their kids everything and any obligation to tell them a specific thing would need to be based on something. Since as Cary points out there is absolutely no way to come to any conclusion on way or the other of the effects of telling them or not telling them there is no way to establish an obligation on the part of the parents to tell them.

Friday, December 9, 2005 12:14 PM
Original article: A (really) few good men

so cayetana, how many points SHOULD the professor add to the girls

or take away the the boys papers because they find the girls social style more pleasant? It's true that the reason lots of males don't go to college but go into lucrative trades because unlike women they need lots of money fast if they are ever going to have sex but this doesn't change the fact that over the long term this will lead to a female dominated society.

Friday, December 9, 2005 03:07 PM

It is truly bizare that some women seem to feel there

is some sort of connection between the experience of a woman who is raped and can't prove it and a woman who isn't raped and claims she was. The only explanation I can come up with that makes sense is that on some level some women really do feel that all women have the right to punish all men for rape. If you have another explanation for this odd assertion I would like to hear it.

Friday, December 9, 2005 03:12 PM

To prove a crime there has to be affirmative evidence for it.

If it is he said she said, that is there is no evidence either way, then there is no way (assuming the system is functioning) that he could be convicted of a crime or that she could be convicted of filing a false report. By that way can someone really not see that admiting that something actually happened to you is an entirely differetn experience than pretending that something happened which didn't happen?

Friday, December 9, 2005 05:58 PM

You're probably safe if you can prove you were never in the store,

just make sure you don't piss off the owner during, or anytime after, the visit. By the way I do get that if you set the bar high for proof, or even require any proof, that something happenned you allow the possiblity that someone can get away with something unpunished, so there is a policy relationship between the two issues, just not a personal one for the people involved.

Friday, December 9, 2005 09:21 PM

His argument is similiar to the actual legal basis for the supreme courts ruling

which was partially based on equal protection, i.e. women needed the means to mitigate the "inequality" of pregnancy, rather than on a right to privacy (as most people probbly assume)

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