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Tuesday, January 10, 2006 04:25 PM

Is snoring all they're taking refuge from

Do people over 60 snore and hog the covers move than younger people? My understanding is that some of the devices/techniques for curing snoring actually do work, at least on some cases.

Tuesday, January 10, 2006 05:28 PM
Original article: Swedish sex shop bombing

25 years ago, about, in Milwaukee I think,

a woman walked into an adult bookstore, poured gas all over herself, and lit it on fire in a conscious effort to reprise the role of Buddhist monks in Vietnam in protesting and bringing down the regime, only this time as a salvo in the feminist (anti)porn wars. This wasn't a case of some nutcase sitting in a psycho ward dreaming something up in their own world, though I don't doubt she had emotional problems. Laws were passed in states, cities, and coutries which specifically stated that explicit depictions of people having sex constituted, in and of themselves, hate speech against women which could be legally banned. Maybe this is all ancient irrelevant history now, maybe.

Tuesday, January 10, 2006 06:07 PM

the reality will not be one of women being ardently courted by hundreds of potential husbands...or that of women with 3-4 husbands waiting on them

if that was the result would you be ok with it?

Tuesday, January 10, 2006 07:59 PM

I really am sick of the constant reiteration among certain elements of the feminist community that if a certain problem affected men, it would have been solved ages ago. Or that if a problem for men hasn't been solved, it's because men don't want it fixed

Think maybe there's a story in why this approach, and it's analog in every other field, dominates public discourse, except among fundamentalists.

Tuesday, January 10, 2006 08:26 PM

dentists?

I think maybe that story was just an excuse

Tuesday, January 10, 2006 10:40 PM

Sounds like the whole idea of sleeping together

is pretty stupid.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 11:33 AM

Even if the woman IS seen as a sex object, if everywhere she goes men are tripping all,

over themselves to give EVERY woman jobs, gift, money, marriage (under and and every condition she cares to name) proposals, etc, etc. wouldn't this be of some benefit to women? It's true the astronomical increase in the cost of sex might create incentives to pimping and prositituion which could be problematic in some societies.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 11:38 AM

Does this mean I am not a total asshole after all?

Well I guess that probably is asking too much.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 12:31 PM

Do you think the badly off in the US still have women to feel superior to?

I don't sense much of a sense of superiority. When the country modernizes the situation will change, although it suprises me how long it takes. I guess modernization is uneven. A couple of years ago something like a fifth of the world had never used a phone.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 01:26 PM

It has been ENDLESSLY discussed here by him and others believe me

check the "choice for men" in the archives

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 01:28 PM

maybe in some situations that is true

it won't be true in a modern society with cameras and cellphones everywhere with everyone under surviellance and a modern police force.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 01:45 PM

I guess the assumption is that the few available women would

be able to get the men to compete against each other in giving women what they want.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 01:50 PM

or the families of men to compete

as in you want a wife? no dowry, in fact pay us. You're a traditionalist, don't like this? Well I bet someone somewhere is less traditional. It might take quite a big disparity to accomplish this, especially if people saw what was happening and took steps to change things so the situation wasn't going to persist from generation to generation.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 02:22 PM

Men and their families can't reproduce themselve without the cooperation of woman

no matter what else is going on.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 04:48 PM

It will revolutionize the practice of medicine once the word

gets out that there are no objective facts regarding the workings of the human body that apply to more than one person. The ute and Piaute indians in Utah are another groupd of people adapted to a desert environment. They are virtually all hugely overweight and diabetic now thanks to modern food and have some of the lowest life expectancies of any group on earth. I can't believe that anyone would suggest that the fact that it is posssible for people to starve to death or suffer malnutrition proves that it is impossible for them to suffer from eating too much.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 06:02 PM
Original article: Baby Brangelina!

It's seems an odd thing to complain that people start out

without babies and then end up with them. Just how would you expect it to work? I don't think a higher percentage of women in Hollywood have kids than women in general. Most women want kids sooner or later.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 07:04 PM
Original article: Baby Brangelina!

they're just playing at stay at home

they do it when they feel like it then they do something else; it's like playing a sport and doing manual labor to earn a living, you sweat during both, maybe even get fit doing both, but it isn't the same. I'm not surprised they take an interest in their new kids but plenty of them will be out doing other things soon enough. They MAY tone some things down, or just be more discreet, but that tends to happen as people get older even when they don't have kids.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 08:40 PM

The reason they've lowered the standard is because it became apparent

that peoples feet would rot off after a while at that level and they wanted to do justify doing something to put it off. Some people will never get lung cancer no matter how much they smoke, does that mean there's no correlation? Some native American groups, they are probably more vulnerable than average, have diabetic disease, not just measured sugar levels, in close to half, maybe more, of the population.

Thursday, January 12, 2006 12:06 PM
Original article: Baby Brangelina!

Well somebody has to have kids or the human race will end..

ASSUMING you believe that's a bad thing then having kids must be, in general, some kind of a good thing. Whether it's a good thing for any particular person is a COMPLETELY different question.

As for celebrities, we pay them TOP DOLLAR so we can live vicariously through them, aren't we entitled to live the way we want? Admittedly it's a tough job for them to provide this service to millions of people with millions of different wants, but hey, the money's pretty good.

Thursday, January 12, 2006 01:29 PM

Atheltic cheerleading is far too dangerous

I guess we should go back to the bump and grind style

Thursday, January 12, 2006 01:33 PM
Original article: Norway, or the highway

There will never be a matriarchal paradise until the human

race is physically altered. There may be a matriarchy but there will always be some kind of tension.

Thursday, January 12, 2006 03:25 PM
Original article: "Meet the Dinner Whores"

It used to be called courtship.

It isn't clear what it should be called. Most men would prefer to spend no time or money at all on a woman who doesn't or won't genuinely find them attractive. Does a man spending money make him hot if he wasn't before? why do it at all then. Or it's flat out payment for services rendered. That's why (well one reason) internet dating is so popular. No one can claim ignorance of what they are doing.

Thursday, January 12, 2006 03:33 PM
Original article: The jailer

If in fact the "proposed" Palestinaian areas can reasonably be described as ghettos

Then that proposal cannot be a viable solution to the problems of the situation regardless of who is at fault for things being what they currently are.

Thursday, January 12, 2006 04:17 PM

I'm guessing the cheerleaders are there for the audience not for the players

maybe this is wild unfounded speculation on my part.

Thursday, January 12, 2006 05:58 PM
Original article: "Meet the Dinner Whores"

they control men's access to sex by making prositituion illegal

in fact there is a very clear historical record; right around the time women got the vote laws against prositution became more common and were more enforced than before.

Thursday, January 12, 2006 06:02 PM
Original article: "Meet the Dinner Whores"

why are so many women apparently offended at the idea that men want to have sex?

this really is confirming a long list of classic stereotypes.

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