Women want to be your friend. You mock and hate them for it.

I have an 11 year old girl too and I will tell you that Paris was faking. No child cries on cue like that. The whole thing was completely bizarre. I don't doubt that she mourns her father but those words and those tears were completely fake and I agree, the Jackson family is exploiting her already.

This is so interesting and has so many implications for religion/theology (as well as public policy, civil rights, etc.) If God made human beings intersex then God's will regarding human sexual behavior is suddenly a lot more difficult to discern. . .

So I used an exlcusively male to female example in my first post and then corrected it in my subsequent posts but this is still somehow indicative that all of my thinking on this issue is hollow? I think you are going too far.

A society which allows only two gendered norms is a sick society. I believe addressing that problem so that people do not feel compelled to undergo invasive surgery should be our first priority. I also believe, generally, that it is unethical to perform major surgery on healthy bodies. It is our fixation with unattainable physical perfection (also a sickness) that causes us to mutilate the healthy bodies of girls and women in order to place silicone bags under their skin. Each breast implant surgery is a symptom of an unhealthy society and so is every sex-reassignment surgery. I would not try to prevent people from doing this, as it is their choice to do what they wish with their bodies, but I still see it as a failure, not a triumph.

I am not attacking a vulnerable minority. And believe me, surgical "closure" of female genitals is certainly as much of a mutliation as reassigning of penile tissue.

Your post still does not address the issue of whether the "effeminate" male or "masculine" female would still want to transition to the opposite sex if there were no such thing as effeminate males and masculine females. The fact that this desire has been pervasive througout human history suggests only to me that gender binaries have also been pervasive throughout human history.

I've never heard of the author nor read the book. My idea comes from the fact that I want my sons and my daughter to be able to love whomever they choose, to dress in whatever way makes them feel comfortable and happy, to pursue any interests they have and fulfull all possibilities for themselves.

I just don't want them physically mutilated.

Declassifying homosexuality as a mental disorder was an important and correct thing to do because to insist on heteronormativity is to insist on gender polarity and this insistence is a flaw in our culture we need to move away from. GID, on the other hand, is a SYMPTOM of our society's refusal to acknowledge a spectrum on gender. It is because we are only able to think of 2 genders at opposite poles that people who don't feel comfortable adopting the gendered traits associated with their sex feel the need to mutilate their bodies surgically. What if we stopped looking at gender as a polarity and instead understood it as a gradient or spectrum. Then if you had a penis but didn't want to throw a football and shout at recess but preferred to jump rope and talk quietly YOU COULD. Penises and jumprope wouldn't be at opposite ends of a spectrum.

I think sex reasignment surgery is a sad symptom of our messed up heteronormative society and for that reason do not feel that GID and homosexuality are at all comparable.

Your letter is really creepy. You WANTED her to "care about you" on this "important day" What is that supposed to mean? You were (presumably) a grown up when you got married, right? What exactly did you want from her? She came, she bought the dress, she hung out for the day, smiled in your pictures. What else is there? You are not the queen and she is not your lady in waiting

I have heard of brides being furious that their bridesmaids cut their hair without permission before the wedding, or were too tan (or not tan enough). You wanted something intangible and then were disappointed when you didn't get it. Sounds like she's lucky to be rid of you.

Are you deep down really trashy, humble, stuck up, stingy, an alcoholic, aggressive, controlling, relaxed? Whatever--it will be revealed at your wedding.

These people are truly stingy and trashy. At any wedding the bride(s) and groom(s) are, first and formost the host(s) and hostess(es). They are not the princes or the princesses or any of that. The way it is supposed to work (and used to) is that people are invited, and even if they dress funny and bring cheap gifts those getting married are charged with welcoming each guest, warmly, and behaving with class and dignity.

These people are not worth your time. Count yourself lucky you found out sooner rather than later.

Yes, I nursed all 3 of my kids well into toddlerhood.

But this is way way too much info for me.

Except when they do. I hate to fly. I despise flying. I am on the very edge of a phobia which, if it went one step further, would prevent me from flying. But I fly an average of 6 times/year. The whole thing feels very precarious to me especially at takeoff. I have been told that planes don't just drop, like stones. That it can't happen. This one did. Jesus.