Letters to the Editor
Rambling Rose 22
Published Letters: 849 Editor's Choice: 6
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What Wrong With Your Picture, Dude?
[Read the article: My wife keeps cheating but we have two kids. Should I leave her?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I can't figure out why you are trying to normalize the abnormal? Married people having or continuing affairs is not normal no matter how "open-minded" you think you are about it.
The pain should be your first clue. If it's okay, it doesn't hurt.
You could analyze why she's doing this and keeps at it until the cows come home and you won't find what you're looking for, or what you need. So give up the I-am-being-reasonable act. It's not working for either one of you. Besides, human behavior is just not that complex. People do what they want, and don't do what they don't want to do.
If you want a healthy life and want your kids to be healthy, then you need to get healthy. Don't think your kids are not picking up on any of this stuff either. They are.
Give the old gal an ultimatum: Counseling or separation. Be prepared to stick to it. If it's going to hurt, make it hurt for all the RIGHT reasons - and no more of the wrong ones.
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What's Your Objective, Girlfriend?
[Read the article: If the first date isn't great, why go out with him again? ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Hey, structure follows strategy, so what is it exactly that you want out of a date, or even a relationship. You say you are too busy with your kids, job, house, etc. so that tells me that you don't have time to invest in a meaningful relationship with a man - who would surely expect some consideration in exchange for his.
Are you looking for love? Marriage? Just someone to go out with from time-to-time? Or is it the romance, wining and dining that appeals to you?
Visioning him sitting on your sofa with popcorn and a movie sounds romantic and also a little like nesting. Is that where you want to go?
Or maybe it's just a booty call? Hey, don't squirm, it's okay to admit that sex with someone once in awhile might be nice.
Forget the online crap. Think about why you are bothering at all and what is the end game. Then start trolling in the waters where the fish that you want swim. See them in person first. Know them a little before you go out. Focus on the person and not the role that you have them auditioning for in your "It's A Wonderful Life" movie.
And by all means, keep putting your children first. Your priorities are clear. Now make the date thing fit the priorities.
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TIRED OF ALL THIS STUFF
[Read the article: This is not Romney's Kennedy moment]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Some of us, probably more than are willing to admit, have grown tired of all this religious dickering and bickering in our political process. Another story on Salon said it best when they said "nonbelievers have long been more tolerant of believers in office than the other way around." Well, it's time for the believers to stop ruining democracy for the rest of us by shoving all their variations on Christian theme down our throats!
I want my government WITHOUT a religious bent, thank you. Since none of you can prove you have the right religion, and since you all seem to fight over your religious intolerances often causing millions of deaths over generations, you all should just shut up and sit down! Practice whatever you choose - key word here is "choose" - and leave the rest of us alone.
I want my elected officials to be honest, to uphold the U.S.Constitution (not a religous relic or symbol of their faith), to enforce the laws of the land, to do what they say they are going to do, to work with others to solve our very serious problems, to make government work better for all of us, to restore this country's credibility, and to leave me alone. Sorry, but those candidates wearing their religious fervor on their shoulders seem to not be able to do any of these things. They only care about pandering to their loud, shrill, intolerant constitutency.
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What?
[Read the article: What ever happened to Britpop?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Why does everything have to be dissected to death? Music is just music no matter how many intellectuals want to sit around and navel-gaze about it.
There is still one standard that they all have to live by: If we don't like it, we don't buy it.
Since we all sat around the cave camp fire and banged on whatever was handy at the time, music has been a subjective thing. I like what moves me. You like what move you.
What music ISN'T is a group of marketing types designing a box that panders to the snobbishness of others. That's just marketing - not music. And the snobs who think they have somehow avoided the crass commercialism of the rest of the genres are just in denial.
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Yes...Next Question Please
[Read the article: For the CIA's eyes only]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Yes, of course, under the Bush administration deceit, lying, sabotage of the truth, and other like-minded acts, are a way of life. Next question, please.
Question:Is there enough time to impeach this s.o.b. and his draft-dodging side-kick?
Answer: The question really is, "does anyone have any backbone in Congress and really care or are they content to
run out the clock on W's mess?"
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Grow Up!
[Read the article: My dad is a writer -- a very, very bad writer!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Your old man is 65 - how old are YOU? Grow up already.
Got a list of questions? Answer them all "yes," and hand in your homework. Or better yet, tell him that you have life and he needs to get one.
What's the worse that can happen? You in the so-called "dog house" again? If it's going to hurt, make it hurt for all the right reasons. Stop with the family self-pity parties and other excursions into dysfunctional-dom.
Everybody wang chung tonight.