Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 228 Editor's Choice: 26
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Yes, Chic, but also...
[Read the article: Camille Paglia's disco playlist]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"Cherchez La Femme/Se Si Bon" by Dr. Buzzard's Original Savannah Band.
"Street Life" by Randy Crawford & the Crusaders
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Michael Schiavo not a villain
[Read the article: Michael Schiavo joins the fray]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Faith and others who have doubts about Michael Schiavo, I suggest you go to the Abstract Appeal blog at http://abstractappeal.com/schiavo/infopage.html. The Florida attorney who writes the blog has links to many original court documents, including briefs written by Terri Schiavo's court appointed guardian.
As you will see by reading the documents, Michael Schiavo was incredibly devoted to Terri's care, so much so that she never suffered from bed sores despite being incapacitated for 11 years. In addition, Terri was comatose for six years before Michael became involved with his current partner, so it's not fair to say he was in a hurry to move on to another relationship.
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The LW posted to this forum...
[Read the article: I'm the academic wife, jealous and insecure]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]and she says she learned about the comment from her husband's friend, not her husband. You might want to read the letters before posting one of your own.
AW, welcome to the forum and I'm glad you're finding some of the comments helpful. If it's any comfort to you, I have a friend who's the only person in his family who doesn't have a Ph.D. and he says that academics are some of the most emotionally screwed up people on the planet. You don't need to feel inferior to those overeducated and underevolved knuckleheads.
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Traveler's checks in a third-world country?
[Read the article: Our host reimbursed us for a theft in his house]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Most African countries aren't like Europe. The local merchants don't accept traveler's checks or debit cards. Also, to everyone who says the boyfriend was being irresponsible--he was trying to secure his money by not carrying it around with him on the streets where he was vulnerable to being mugged. He assumed that his money would be safe in his host's home--in retrospect, that was a naive assumption, but it doesn't make him an irresponsible ass. Sheesh.
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Applause for Pacem
[Read the article: I made a terrible mistake and there's no going back]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Pacem, that was outstanding advice.
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Give it time
[Read the article: I can't get closure with my alcoholic ex]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You haven't been out long enough to clear your head. Stay away from him, as Cary said, and live your life. In a year or two, when life continues to be sweeter than you could ever have imagined, you'll look back in wonder and realize that the sick, guilty thinking is gone and you've truly healed.
I was there and trust me, it will get better.
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Meg
[Read the article: I can't get closure with my alcoholic ex]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Brilliant advice.
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My ex did apologize
[Read the article: I can't get closure with my alcoholic ex]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It didn't bring me closure. I'm glad he said it but those words didn't erase all of the damage done over the years. The only thing that brings closure is time and distance. Eventually you will forgive yourself or get to the point where you realize you didn't do anything requiring forgiveness.
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Here's a photo
[Read the article: Too fat for Maxim's Super Bowl party]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]http://www.metrotimes.com/images/Webphotos/Final/Sarah.jpg
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SYA readers scare me
[Read the article: My wife quit shaving her legs and it turns me off]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Every time I think the SYA posts can't get any more fucked up, Cary picks another letter that sends people off a cliff. Who the hell are you people and what rock did you crawl out from under? And I include both the women who think that shaving is patriarchal oppression AND the men who label all women as greedy money-hungry tramps. Note to both groups: neither attitude is likely to get you laid.
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Sure you're wealthy
[Read the article: My wife quit shaving her legs and it turns me off]
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Sure buddy
[Read the article: My wife quit shaving her legs and it turns me off]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Bwahaha!!! Yes, you have all that yet you take the time from your jetset lifestyle to troll the SYA thread.
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It's entertainment, not art
[Read the article: The new Amos 'n' Andy?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm a Puerto Rican woman and while I get a kick out of Walter Mercado, Sabado Gigante and telenovelas, I don't have any delusions about them being anything more than pulp entertainment. If you love Tyler Perry's work, great, but don't try to make it out to be something it isn't. And why care if critics pan it? Did anyone really think Roger Ebert would like the film?
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--ists
[Read the article: Should I marry into a family of bigots?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Why are people writing "--ists" instead of "racists?" Am I missing something?
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Treatment options aren't mutually exclusive
[Read the article: I was a 9-year-old lesbian ... or so I thought]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"I feel like Cary is throwing out therapy an awful lot as a treatment option--but in some cases what might work better than going through the past is starting at this moment and developing new coping mechanisms or redirecting one's energy--EMDR, New Decision Therapy, even Reiki or yoga."
Therapy is not incompatible with these other options. You can do psychotherapy, yoga, meditation, EMDR, etc. at the same time. The treatments all complement each other. Also, talk therapy isn't just about exploring the past but about coming up with ways to cope in the present.
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Wow, great advice today
[Read the article: I want to quit my boring, soul-destroying job]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm really enjoying everyone's letters--lots of great suggestions. Books that the LW might find helpful: "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was" and "It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start Now," both by Barbara Sher.
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Mexicans in New Orleans
[Read the article: Immigration nation]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]There was an interesting article recently in the LA Times about Mexican immigrants traveling to New Orleans for construction jobs:
http://www.latimes.com/news/printedition/asection/la-na-labor4apr04,1,5065013.story.
The jobs pay $16 an hour, far above minimum wage, yet there hasn't been a comparable rush of Americans to take them. Not sure why, but it gives food for thought.
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It's not just the lesbian part
[Read the article: My husband says he's "allergic" to me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The whole letter reads like a cut and paste from previous SYA columns. Every single dysfunction is covered. I'm not someone who usually questions the veracity of the letters--as I said earlier, Cary answered one of my letters and I know three people on Table Talk who've had their letters answered. But something is off about this one. It doesn't pass the smell test.
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In defense of online dating
[Read the article: I love to love but I hate to date]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm living with a man I met online, and I know of at least two married couples who met online. When I did online dating I found the men to be no better or worse than men I met in everyday life. Some were assholes, most were just ordinary guys.
Online dating is definitely not for everyone, especially if you're shy about talking to people you don't know, but it's not the pit that's being described here.