Letters to the Editor
SB
Published Letters: 378 Editor's Choice: 18
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Narcissist
[Read the article: My husband went to jail for pot -- and now he's smoking again!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Her husband is a Narcissist. He's seemingly got a serious personality disorder, and it isn't going to change. Look it up, get into a support group for partners of narcissists, whatever. He isn't going to change. The risk taking, lack of empathy, excessive charm, etc. all add up to the big N. After she (hopefully) leaves him, which will probably require a disaster, or several, he'll come back with the charm turned up to 200%. Eventually the charming facade will crumble away and she'll wonder what happened.
She's addicted to him, not in love with him. There's a slight difference. It's likely he's trying to drive her away as another writer suggested, BTW. I had a brilliant, sucessful friend who was TOTALLY addicted to her Narcissist no matter how many things he did that should have driven her away. Oh, well.
Good luck, you'll need it.
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Photo?
[Read the article: Porky pregnancies or body dysmorphia?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]What photo? And what exactly is the twisted message? It seems like a pretty straightforward article to me.
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Which parent gets to decide on circumcision?
[Read the article: Which parent gets to decide on circumcision?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]That's the question as posed on Broadsheet.
And the answer to that exact question, posed just like that, has to be "the kid's father". And the answer he comes up with to the question about circumcision had better well be No Way!
Sorry, there's almost never really a reason for it. It's just not OK.
Sorry, Jews, Muslims, it's not OK to mutilate your little boy in the name of some stupid old custom. You presumably aren't wandering the desert anymore, there just isn't a reason. Use the brains god gave you, for fuck's sake!
Sorry, jealous, vindictive, narcissistic god; time to calm down, get over yourself and play nice. No more mutililating little boys, no more killing firstborns, nada. Stop it!
Really, both parents should decide, and they should come up with the answer not to perform genital mutilation on their child! Why is that so difficult?
Jeez...
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Sobbering?
[Read the article: Iraqi women sexually terrorized]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Can someone fix that please? Spelling counts.
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The Horror ...
[Read the article: Iraqi women sexually terrorized]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Sadly, I'm no longer surprised by the varied and new permutations of horror that we've managed to inflict on Iraq ... pain becomes numbing after a long while.
At least BushCo is doing its best to bankrupt the American empire, I suppose the rest of the world can't wait. The temper tantrum we throw when that happens will be pretty ugly.
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This woman is nuts!
[Read the article: I know in my heart I'm going to leave my husband ... but when and how?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Bipolar, yes probably, and god knows what else. HPD, maybe?
Leave now, let the husband keep the house and daughter, and go do ... whatever.
Go now so he can remarry, with any luck he will have learned a lot during the past few years and can find someone saner who will make a nice stepmom.
One of the more distasteful letters of late. Hope it IS fake.
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My comments are reprehensible!
[Read the article: I know in my heart I'm going to leave my husband ... but when and how?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]And I stand by them anyway. Latina, I'm basically suggesting the same thing you and the others you seem to agree with are - that she leave now... but MY COMMENTS are reprenensible? WTF? Because I'm harsh and get right to the point?
I'll elaborate a little - this lady seems like she has some variety of personality disorder, and it's not a minor thing. I can't say what kind, but she's a major Drama Queen, from a family of Drama Queens. (I use the term Drama Queen as the layman's term for someone with a moderate cluster B personality disorder. Really severe ones = sociopaths) There are a LOT of clues in her letter, though.
She doesn't really go into details because she's only reading from her script, but her whole family is nuts. PD's tend to be inherited socially (and genetically to some extent), and the biggest favor she can do her daughter is to keep her away from her Drama Queen mother and the whole Drama Royal Family. Even if she totally pulls it together and evens herself out, I'd bet that the kid will say when she's older, not with a smile on her face, "My mom's nuts".
BTW, my mom is nuts. My parents divorced when I was an infant and I ended up with my mom's personality disordered, alcoholic family instead of my more or less stable, controlling dad. My mom is a great person, absolutely awesome, but her parenting skills could easily have killed me or sent me to skid row.
I've known too many people who fundamentally lack empathy and an intuitive understanding of human emotion to think that people like that actually get much better. I'm just not very sympathetic towards radically selfish people who have kids! I'm a firm believer in "You should have thought of that first!" (dumbass!)
Now, if I'm wrong about this woman and her family, tackling the depression and the bipolar disorder will work wonders, and if I thought that was the problem, I'd say so. I don't think it is. I'm not in favor of people with PD's raising kids because it seems to spawn more of the same. Maybe that's one of the reasons I don't want any myself, I don't know that I could give them the love they deserve. I am certainly guilty of pointing the finger at things I fear may be true of myself, yo! To be more generous,
Cary's solid, compassionate advice was an appropriate respone for someone who was actually asked for advice.
Anyway, THIS IS A LETTERS COLUMN. To me it's like a reality based soap opera on the internet. I have no problems yelling "You should have thought of that first, dumbass!"
at the characters in the current episode! Jeez!
Finally, It's his job, I'm just commenting from the peanut gallery.