Letters to the Editor
anibundel
Published Letters: 16 Editor's Choice: 1
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[Read the article: All the guys I'm dating want me to shave down there]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So this one pro'lly won't get noticed, but I'm adding my two cents anyway.
Do what you want. My mother doesn't shave a lick, and her husband doesn't care, but that's because she married a european. Most americans have been convinced by media images and advertising that "Hair Is Bad!" and it was only a matter of time before that extended from our underarms and our legs to more private places. That doesn't mean you should buy into it. There are men out there who love hair down there. If they buy into mainstream media, they probably think they're freaks or fetishists.
As for the question, "Do all women shave?", I live in DC and I am under the impression that most of my girlfriends shave at least in some fashion, even if it's just their "Bikini Line", which I understand to mean "outside the lines that a normal, full pair of panties cover"--ie, the very tops of the inner thighs. One of them told me she brazillian waxes it all away, to which my response was the same as yours--eww, that's just pedophillic!
I do not shave my hair away, except for the aforementioned thigh-tops. I just keep it trim. It's to keep things getting long and scraggly, which to me looks messy. The reason I do so? Embarressing but true: I like I oral sex, but hair in my mouth makes me gag. So I ask my boyfriend to keep himself trim. Not shaven down to a little boy's look, just trim. In return, I do the same. It has nothing to do with porn, pedophillia or living in a metropolitan area...though those these things might have subconciously influenced me to like the way things look trim...
I started trimming because my best high school girlfriend was just utterly horrified that i didn't shave. "but you must!", she insisted one night during a sleepover. (It should be noted she has turned out to be very conservative and lives an appearance-based lifestyle.) I hated the way I looked shaved, so for years I didn't do anything. Developing the way I liked myself to look required me getting comfortable enough with myself and my body to experiment, which wasn't until my mid-20s.
And not to dis on Cary in anyway, because he was honest and upfront about not being comfortable answering your question: The right place for this letter, where the columnist would give you an answer, was "Savage Love."
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That's great news!
[Read the article: A quiet week on the blog]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Does that mean you're secure again enough in your liberal elite cred to bring back "The Fix" now?
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Wow
[Read the article: Should strip-club bachelor parties be men-only?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I have been recently tuning out Cary's responses, but today, I'm glad I read on.
Yes, what Cary said about Bachelor parties and Weddings themselves as meaningless exercises in futility comes off as seriously depressing, but in a world where the wedding industry seeks to rob middle to upper class couples (and those that wish to be seen as such) of as much money as they are willing to part with, it's nice to see someone call weddings (and all sundry parties associated therein) what they have become: "something utterly vacuous and inconsequential." (Don't believe me? Check out "My Big Fat Fabulous Wedding" on VH1.)
Weddings are (for the most part) no longer about bringing community together, adding another piece of stability against the chaos of the universe. They have become the show ponies of the monied class, and a way for young women to regurgitate all the Barbie and Disney Princess teachings of their childhood for the world to ooh and ahh over. Wedding showers have gone from a way for a woman to start her first house to blatant gift grabbing. And bachelor parties are a way for guys to pretend they once lived like frat boys from "Animal House" and need to be free to do so once more before they are legshackled for life to their cubicle in the name of saving up for college tuitions, sweet sixteen parties and SUVs. No one likes to hear it, but the truth is it's all pretend.
And this ruffling of feathers is not that he's enacting this ridiculous ritual, but that there is someone involved who doesn't fit into the stereotype box for her sex? Who says she's going to be watching the boys watch the girls? I know it's hard to imagine for the LW's proper box, but maybe she'll actually watch the girls? In all this silliness, is it really so harmful that someone wants to go have a good time, and damn the way it looks?
Thanks Cary, for reminding me why I choose you over Dear Abby every time.
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It's so clearly not about the swear word
[Read the article: Fox muzzles Sally Field]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]To the poster who said this was only about the swear word: if they were so worried about the "goddamn", they could have just silenced that one little bit without cutting the whole thing. Try watching TV sometime. They do it everyday.
To see how they cut it (with piss-poor editing) is startling. It looks almost to be a glitch, but once you see the real footage, it's clearly not.
Too bad someone hasn't told the Fox execs the 50s are over and we are in the 21st century. In their zealotry, they have created the next must-watch moment for the power of the internet to play endlessly showing their foolishness, now that we're all finished watching Britney's VMA performance.
So sad, because if they hadn't cut it, we probably wouldn't even be talking about it. Except, of course, in places like O'Reilly, where they like to slam celebs for having an opinion that doesn't match theirs, instead of actually reporting real news.
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Save your money for the divorce
[Read the article: I want a perfect wedding, but my in-laws are trashy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Wanting to have a nice wedding does not make you a Bridezilla.
Writing to an advice columnist looking for tacit approval to be a bitch to your future in-laws because they are not living their lives to the standards you require for your wedding? Now that totally makes you Bridezilla.
Pathetic.