My husband tells me that the guys at his office are always complaining about how their wives never have sex with them.

I always thought this was weird, but after reading about the LW's boyfriend and some of the other responses in support of him, I think I get it.

These guys are so insecure about their own sexual abilities, that they look for partners who are inexperienced sexually or possibly even have sexual hang-ups. Then they are all shocked when they find themselves in sexless marriages.

Back in high school and college I was rejected by a few guys who were turned off by the fact that I was so turned on by sex. I bet those same guys are the ones complaining about their nonexistent sex lives now.

Meanwhile, my husband, who, by the way, would never have been bothered if I'd had a threesome, says I'm the perfect woman-- a sweet mother and preschool teacher by day, who is a total slut in the bedroom at night.

If you worry about your woman being too slutty and only date inexperienced women, guys, prepare for a lifetime of cold showers.

My husband's old high school buddy recently went through a messy divorce with a toxic woman. Every person he knew could have predicted this outcome before the wedding vows were ever exchanged. (My mother-in-law commented to us on the wedding day that the marriage wouldn't last, and she was, of course, correct.)

How did we know? Well, for starters, every time our friend (I'll call him "Sam") spoke about his bride-to-be to us, he's say how pretty she was. "Remember Stacy from high school? Remember how pretty she was? She's still gorgeous and we're getting married!" Sam could think of no other positive qualities about his betrothed, but he sure was proud of her looks. Meanwhile all my husband could remember about her was how mean she was back in high school

The warning signs on the way to the alter were many. Sam attended our wedding by himself, because Stacy and he had a huge fight the night before. There were a lot of huge fights back then.

Shortly after they got married, Stacy insisted that they pose for their Christmas card picture in a friend's house, because she was ashamed of the modest house their family was living in at that time. (Sam is a successful airline pilot, piloting planes between the U.S. and Asia, but at that time the airlines had some financial problems and he wasn't earning top dollar.) This disturbed Sam a lot, but hey, he'd married her for her looks, right? Appearances were all that mattered to this girl.

Long story short: They had two kids, Sam's a super Dad-- he was even featured in a parenting magazine. One day Stacy tells him she's been having an affair with a doctor and she leaves him and the kids to live with the doctor, who's also left his own wife. Sam is left with two (very young) distraught children who feel completely abandoned by their mom and no one to look after them while he works. Luckily his mom moved from out-of-state to rescue the kids and look after them.

A year later Stacy decided she wanted her kids back and full custody to boot. Both she and the doctor have accused their former spouses of abusing the kids in order to try and get full custody. Sam has paid and continues to pay hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal fees to fight for his children.

If only he'd chosen a girl because she was sweet and hard-working, instead of because she's blonde and thin and wears her make-up well...

I noticed that the article didn't mention the many moms who work part-time or in underpaid professions, so that they can care for their own children after school.

Many of the moms that I know (including myself) are in a position where they choose lower-paying jobs, such as teaching, so that they can care for their own children during the summer, etc. Frankly, the childcare available in my area is too expensive for me to actually earn an income if I go back to full-time work. (I do have a B.A. degree, by the way.) I guess if I were a lawyer or other professional, it would be financially worthwhile to pay for childcare, but at my income level, it just doesn't make sense.

I love teaching, but compared to my husband's income, I earn almost nothing. A few weeks ago, my young son's school had a vacation, but the school where I teach didn't.

After paying for his childcare program, I lost approximately five dollars every day that I worked.

I also know more than a few well-educated moms in my town, who waitress in the evenings to earn money, while their husbands watch over their sleeping children. They need the income to make the family budget, and this is the only way they can figure to get it.

It's been said a million times, but I'll say it again. The whole arguement about working vs. stay-at-home choices is pretty meaningless to most moms. Unless we get some decent, affordable childcare in this country, most women don't have much choice anyway.