Letters to the Editor
Published Letters: 12 Editor's Choice: 1
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cary, sigh... what you don't know about women's bodies
[Read the article: Take my virginity -- please!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]i guess i should forgive your answer because you're not a woman, don't have the same parts that we have, and don't fully understand how our bodies work.
now, i understand this writer's problem; i lost my virginity at 21 and was lucky enough to find someone who cared about me and to whom it didn't matter... but enough about that.
here's the skinny: hymens are generally broken/gone by the time a woman is in her 20s. we use tampons, masturbate, etc. but they can be there, and they can bleed. even if a woman has played with her own sexual toys.
here's another thing about a woman's body: if she's in any way nervous about this, her vaginal muscles can tighten up like a vise grip, make sex horribly painful. think searing pain.
i'm not saying these things will happen, but that they could. would it be fair to any man to put him in the position of having a hysterical, bleeding and sore woman on his hands? talk about scaring a guy away... geez.
i don't have the answer, but yours isn't it.
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this is a question i won't even answer any longer...
[Read the article: My boyfriend can't handle my past]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]a lesson i learned the hard way by telling a new boyfriend, ten years ago, what the number was when he asked. the number was low, VERY LOW, but higher than his. and all of a sudden my sweet and tender boyfriend, whom i had yet to sleep with, told me he was shocked and disturbed because i'd been telling him all along how sacred and serious i found sex to be, and that i am very picky about whom i sleep with because i find it so sacrosanct. (sp?)
needless to say, this conversation was the first "clue" that the guy was, among other things, insecure, depressed, sociopathic, unhappy, a prevaricator, someone mentally ill with a mean streak a mile long. glad i found this out within the first few months. sadly, i'd slept with him at this point.
this is a question i won't ever, ever answer again. i don't care how wonderful and amazing and perfect any man i'm dating is again; if he's nuts, i'll lern about it soon enough. i'd rather not find out in this same manner again because the scars run deep.
the moral: dump the boyfriend. now.
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what scares me most...
[Read the article: Survival of the unfittest]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]and what makes me the angriest and most frightened, is that they're really not teaching ID, they're teaching christian ID (which is all they're doing, i believe, in case i'm wrong). so it's not even just a matter of any church/temple/mosque bringing their teachings into a public school setting, it's that they're bringing them in without any false pretenses that they are, in fact, christian theories. essentially, they are allowing the christians to come in with their beliefs, but not the rest of the religions and races in this country. so they become more important, more reliable, the purveryors of truth. which erodes the other religions in this country for decades to come.
i'm all for teaching comparative religion, frankly i think it's sorely needed in this country right now. but i fear any teachings would be "christianity in contrast to other religions."
the amount of ground we, open-minded thinkers, liberals, jews and muslims and hindu and buddhist, et alia, have lost is staggering. and that our president (a term i use lighly) thinks there's no problem in teaching neatly packaged christian doctrine in our schools, then something is very, very wrong in this country.
as an american, i pay taxes. those taxes go towards public education (and weapons, i know...), and i'm sickened to know that my hard earned dollars are teaching the tenets of christianity. it seems like such an obvious argument, it's hard to believe it's gotten this far.
the bigger question always on the mind of this jewish/atheist raised to recognize red-flags of exclusion and anti-semitism: when do we leave? what provokes the final straw to move out of this country before it's too late?
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divorce is a business matter...
[Read the article: My wife left me for a woman -- could I please have my divorce now?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]just like marriage. it's all legal, or illegal, but governed by laws.
if your wife really wanted to get divorced she'd have made sure it happened as soon as humanly possible. this mediation thing isn't working, you're getting screwed, and your girlfriend, well, don't get me started. trust me that she will only be patient for so long before the two of you end up in counseling because you're not divorced.
find the money. use a credit card. get a loan. sell something. find someone to represent you before it's too late.
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loving jack
[Read the article: You don't know Jack?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]i'm with williams, jack rocks.
in a city this big without a decent radio station, jack's been my savior (especially in a ten year old car that has no CD player). i love FUV, but you can't get it everywhere and on the weekends it's just, well, weird celtic crap. and i love the indie scene, really.
but while i will absolutely turn the dial if i hear celene dion or beyonce, hearing nick lowe and styx and elvis in the same set just work... even with the cheesy car commercials.
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research, people...
[Read the article: The Fix]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]fyi, it's jane curtin