My parents are currently doing exactly this same thing to my very sweet, caring, grandmother who has never done one thing to hurt anybody and is a pleasant, easygoing woman to live with, and I have lived with her. Her mind is sharp and she should be in control of her affairs. Physically, she is in a wheelchair. That's all that's wrong with her.

My parents got power of attorney through deception and dumped this kindly woman in a home. They lie to her and say she will come home someday. They lie to her about her financial situation. They have spent all her money, but she doesn't know it etc. etc. My grandmother could change this but she would have to fight them and she simply won't. Her crime, if she has committed one, is only passivity. I think she's afraid to learn the true extent of what her own son and his wife have done to her.

Cary, please do not assume some kind of karmic justice is playing itself out. That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Some of the old people in my grandma's home are there because they really need the care. Some are there because they are nasty people whose families need peace from their bullying ways. And some, in fact, a great many, are nice people whose children just happen to be lazy, greedy, selfish pieces of shit. It's pure injustice, and there's no comfort.

My grandma is still waiting to come home. My parents still tell her she will. Meantime, they have bought a new Cadillac and a houseful of furniture and guess where the money came from?

Spouses as well as children can be very cruel to the elderly.

My sister and I have tried to convince my Grandma that her trust is misplaced. In her heart of hearts, I think she knows, too. But then they tell her they will pay her back, etc. etc. and she'd rather believe them than face the music. She'd have to get my dad's brother, my uncle, to take over her affairs and he doesn't live in the area, and she seems actually afraid to do it.

She just doesn't have the will to deal with it.

Since we are just the grandchildren we don't know what to do about that.

But yeah, we know the legality of the whole shell game my parents have been playing with her money is shaky at the very best. Dragging our parents to court is not going to work when my grandma chickens out every time they yell at her. She is old and she is being exploited, if not emotionally abused, but she is still a legally competent adult who has to decide to defend herself.

It's very tough.

First of all, five women and not three were bruied alive. Three of the five were teenagers. The charge of sexual misbehavior or desiring love marriages was almost surely a charge fabricated against them after the fact. Almost all women who are murdered in Pakistan by bestial control freaks from their families are accused of "fooling around". Often evidence is given that they have lost their virginity. Usually it has been, in truth, lost to the aforementioned bestial control freaks, who are sexually abusing them.

Secondly, the politicians in Pakistan who have defended the murders have family members who were personally involved in the crime, including one who used his government issued jeep to kidnap the victims. So the politicians who have defended the act are simply abusing their power to protect their relatives. Everybody in Pakistan knows this, and...

...lastly, condemnation of the killings has been almost universal in Pakistan, and has certainly been universal in the Pakistani press. So let's please quit with the "all Pakistanis are cavemen", please.

So very many of these comments are in support of the killings. It's very disturbing, whether its cultural relativistic BS or a sincere belief that women should really not have sexual or romantic relations with whom they please. I'm hoping it's just contrarianism on the part of the regular suspects, but even so it's chilling. Do you people really believe that no one has ever experienced love in "harsh, remote environments"? Or that the existence of harsh, remote environments justifies criminal levels of restraint and cruelty against women?

Remember that Eskimau women in the harsh environment of the North Pole were very sexually free and regularly bore children with men who were not their husbands, something that appalled Catholic missionaries to the region. Cultural norms simply vary, and the women of the Baloch region of Iran/Pakistan have drawn a very short straw thanks to Islam, tribalism, and great poverty. That can change with time, and it should.

There is no evidence that suggests this from Sweden. He's talking through his hat.

Legalization of prostitution legalizes abuse of women, because abuse is always the reality of prostitution. Having your body openings penetrated by numerous complete strangers for a sickeningly petty amount of money is the definition of heinous abuse. No number of free health checkups and window dressing (literally) can alter the ugly truth.

she's going to be a prop her whole life in one way or another; she will have to sit quietly and be told how very, very lucky lucky lucky she is that the Pretty White Lady saved her from all those hellish heathens over in heathenland.

Perhaps she will, understandably, rebel, convert to Islam, head back to Bangladesh and locate her birth clan. Let's hope so. Of course she may be too mentally destroyed to even contemplate that step.

Maybe she'll just die drunk and on drugs. Plenty of others do.