This all seems like a steaming pile to me, and hell, I'm one of these beloved-friend of many unrequited-loves guys that this article is apparently talking about. I'm also lucky enough to be able to consider many smart, kind, all-around amazing women close friends. Without exception they're all either engaged or married, and without exception it's to a kind, generous 'nice guy'.

How about the fact that like attracts like? How many whole, together people do any of you know that are with complete tools? (being superficially together, but being a mess of psychological problems underneath doesn't count).

Is having morally loose, superficial, shallow and selfish women shaking up with morally loose, superficial, shallow and selfish dudes that big a loss to either men or women?

how about dropping the 'his fault, her fault, your fault, their fault' pretense that always accompanies anything about this topic (from any standpoint) and address what the issue really is? I mean, to me the issue being skirted always seems to be that rejection, especially continual, sucks (for dudes and ladies alike), hell, you could go so far as to say that it can cause serious psychological and emotional damage, you could probably back it up with fancy charts and graphs. There are no answers, there's no blame to put on anyone or any group. Life is what it is, sometimes its trying and unfair, sometimes its perfect. sometimes there's light at the end of the tunnel, sometimes there isn't. sometimes there's no darkness at all.

Why not just admit that it isn't 'players' or 'sluts' or 'new men' or 'enlightened women', we're all just afraid that we won't find love (however you would define it), and those of us that have don't want to admit that a lot of it is probably because of blind luck.

I could probably end there. I probably should. But...

Forget 'god', forget whether or not abortion is murder. The fact is that laws don't stop people from acting how they choose to act. We have drug laws, we still have crackheads. Murder is illegal, people still kill each other. Regardless of the legality of abortion, women who have made the decision to terminate a pregnancy are going to follow through on that decision. Taking away their ability to have an abortion done in a safe (well... except for the threat of a fundie bombing), and sterile environment will only lead to more desperate measure. Then again, maybe you represent the coat-hanger lobby and are trying to drum up business?

is it ethical to expect a woman to go to some shady back alley clinic to have a rather invasive procedure done by someone who may not have any accredited training? Would you prefer they perform abortions on themselves? That is the reality of making abortion illegal. It won't stop abortion, it'll just create another black market industry. Without regulations.

And to say that a few cells is a life form. please, conservatives always like their 'slippery slope' arguments, so how about this - if a few cells is life, then maybe menstruation should be made illegal. or in the case of men, masturbation.

and to tackle the whole 'there are lots of families that are waiting to adopt' argument. yes. there are. and there are a lot of older children who need and deserve loving homes. but people are too caught up in adopting same-race babies so they can pretend it's biologically theirs. give me a break. your views on this issue need to be aborted.