I have been a fan for 30 years. Dave's brand of humor, and appearance, are an adult version of my childhood hero, Alfred E. Newman of "Mad" magazine fame. But I am disappointed in him. I hate thinking he has been a serial cheater all his adult life, and this is how it seems. Did he cheat on his first wife with Merrill Markoe? Did he cheat on her with Regina Lasko? Did he cheat on her with othr interms and with Stephanie Burkitt? I do not know, of course, but I strongly suspect he is nothing but a player. He may try now to be a real husband with a real family, but he is off to a very bad start. It seems none of the people involved in this marriage, other than his son, Harry, have all the right stuff.

Cary really missed to boat on his advice to you. There is probably nothing more detrimental to a person your age or older than making an unnecessary move. You are so lucky to have friends and to be active. Continiue to count your blessings, tell your sister and friend in no uncertain terms to stop talking about you or to you about diet, exercise or where you live, and stay in your own home until you have absolutly no choice. If you are lucky, you will die peacefully in your own home in 25 years or so. If not, a nursing home isn't too bad a bet, as long as it's a really good one. You can check with your state now to see how the nursing homes in your area have been rated by them. Don't let anyone tell you what to do, even though we are right now! God bless you.

The letter writer sounds like a really nice guy. I didn't know that men too can have all these unresolved feelings and the need to know what went wrong. I have questioned what went wrong in my past relationships, as if understanding it could mitigate the pain, or help with future relationships, or, even more unlikely, allow me to go back in time into the relationship in question and not make the same mistakes. Life doesn't work that way! Unless the letter writer had been a cad himself and could realize it now and learn not to be so in the next relationship, there is nothing to be learned here, other than that relationships are not predictable. I don't believe he did anything wrong in his relationsohip. The bottom line is simply that she "just wasn't that into him". Harsh though that may sound, it is the final truth. Once he accepts it, he can let go and find peace. He will then be able to go on with his life.

What he is saying is so predictable - it's what all men say when they are looking for excuses to get out of their marriages without actually admitting they are cheating. Good riddance to this bum. See a good lawyer and get every cent you can for yourself and the kids. You will be better off without this clown.

Will it be considered "sexism" if HRC is the nominee and the Republicans gleefully let the Los Angeles Tims print the alleged sex scandal story they've been holding? Or, if that scandal is about HRC's alleged bisexuality, will it be just one more lie she's lived and passed off to the public? Just a theory and would be interested in your feedback.

....is a great guy. I hope he is feeling good and enjoys life for many more years to come.

,,,,didn't make me happy either. No matter what I have acquired, whether it's paid for by now or not (and a lot of it isn't),the stuff hasn't made me happier. And the catalogs just kept coming in, showing me how much I still really needed. I used to tell my daughter, when she was little and we really had a lot less, that there is a difference between "want" and "need. Since then, those lines have become blurry for me. In some ways it's good the pendulum is swinging back. Maybe I will get the stuff I have paid for.

Here's a good black bean soup recipe: After your beans have been soaked overnight, picked through and rinsed well, fry some bacon (at least half a pound)in a big soup pot. Eat the bacon but leave all the bacon grease in your pot. Saute a chopped onion in the bacon grease, then add the drained beans. Cover well with chicken stock, add a little salt, pepper and a couple of bay leaves. Bring to a boil, cover the pot, then simmer very slowly for a couple of hours. Watch carefully , stir, and add more chicken stock only if needed. Best to use unsalted stock. When beans are very tender, remove bay leaves, check the seasoning and add more salt if needed, then add 1/2 cup brandy and simmer awhile longer.

My daughter was born and I wondered what kind of world I had brought her into.

I smoked for 35 years and quit 4 times. The 4th time was over 7 years ago. Thank heavens Nicorette gum got me through the months of intense nicotene craving until I finally made it. I commmend Obama for quitting and want to remind people that it is a very hard thing to do. I can't imagine trying to do so during this stressful time, so he deserves a double commendation! Quitting is a process - it doesn't happen all at once. Don't judge him because he was a smoker. Only judge those who aren't even trying to quit.