warnings:

age 19. barely legal. not legal for booze. big risk to you as responsible adults.

already has "control" issues - ie - drunk sex, lots of texting. lack of boundaries.

could/would bring those issues into work. to the boss. screwing your income/reputation.

you both - thirties. adults. know what you are doing/who you are/chose this lifestyle. what would you guys get out of this relationship, besides headaches?

just my opinion, but run away. this girl doesn't want a mother.

i relate on some levels to LW. I cannot stand babies or anyone who talks "baby", even to babies, let alone cats, so that would peeve me. but what made me think about the way I view my cats was when a friend and fellow cat person came over and played with my cats...by treating them like cats. dragging string, making silly noises so they would dart their heads and talking to them like "here kitty kitty!". and while the cats did not seen very amused, all i could think of was: "That's so stupid. You're treating them like CATS! (meaning, just any old cat, pet, etc.)" I know, strange reaction. Which is not to say I don't cuddle with my cats, and pet them, etc., I guess I just don't like infantilization on any level.

I loved this article - one person, small effort, world of difference. who knows how many lives she has/ will touch with this simple act of sharing. Awesome.

This man is a despicable piece of scum. Awwww, poor you, you lost your access to Turdblossom. Now you may have to think for yourself instead of parrotting what they tell you. What is truly an abomination is:1) we do not have a liberal media and 2) that this man was still employed to give his "opinions", even after the Plame outing and 3) he really hasn't suffered any consequences aside from a lack of dinner invites.

Evryone has their "people are mean and suck" tale. And anyone who hasn't been betrayed or effed over, either in a personal or business situation, just isn't getting out there. College, nor your "friends" there, does not define you. And Facebook sure as hell doesn't. The brilliance of graduating early and getting free of these fakers, is that you get to turn the page and reinvent. You've learned from this experience. You never have to deal with those bastards again. You will choose you company more wisely. You have recognized your naivete, which you now know makes you more vulnerable. And you have gotten counselling. There is nothing else to be gleaned from this experience.

So what's the next chapter? What kind of life do you want to live? What kind of people do you want to surround yourself with? Research some GLBT tolerant places - they aren't all in major urban areas where everyone is a jaded hardass. Someone will find your naivete and earnestness charming. Much love.

You made the assumption of being an earnest screw-up. And while it is possible the potential sister in law may want to emulate LW's togetherness, particularly since she is 20 and probably has no role models ( or a whole lot of experience with wedding etiquette), she could be a total nut-ball drama queen who likes creating "situations" and conflict.

best of luck LW. Being responsible sucks.

get everything in writing, regarding pay raises & other promises.

while I am enjoying the rorshach test on "clean", I wish eHarmony would just go away and take its damn cheezy 70s song that was overused in movie trailers before they killed it. and that old dude is creepy. ugh.

He mentions Enoch in one sentence, alluding to it as if we all knew what it was about, and with vague regret. That's why the review says nothing about it.

What I found interesting about Clapton is that he really was happier being a sideman. And given his recitation of his childhood and his personality as shaped by it, it shouldn't come as a surprise that he was a shy, awkward guy who let drugs steer his emotional life. I think we forget in our "Oprah" age that many people did not self-examine their emotions and decisions, and/or did not have the language to do so. Ithink that is why 12 step was such a revelation to him. He mentions that only in America is alcoholism considered a disease, whereas in England/Europe he says it is considered more of a moral failing.

Overall, Clapton strikes me as a nice enough bloke, kinda like the collegiate professor he looks like now. What I did also find fascinating in the book was his explanation of how he met and married his much younger, non-famous/supermodelish wife. I think it says alot about who the man is.

I would also highly recommend reading Pattie Boyd's book "Wonderful Tonight" which came out a few weeks ago. It was fascinating to see how these two remembered themselves and each other. We forget, given time and the legend status applied to Clapton and Boyd (as an irrestible siren to rock stars) that these are just two awkward people with f'ed up upbringings whose existance for many years revolved around drug use. Unlike now, there wasn't a DARE movement or TV promos about drugs being bad. This generation pioneered popular drug use in many ways, informing wide swathes of mass culture.

There are different kinds of bamboo, including the runner kind that will spread rapidly and wildly, and can only be stopped by deep trenches and concrete barriers. But there are other kinds of bamboo, I think called clumping, that I have used in my backyard.

about bamboo floors. They are beautiful, but very delicate and scratch rather easily. a big bummer. especially since they were advertised at lowes as hardwood and durable. not to mention their home installation service was a nightmare, but that's another story.

really salon? this is it? cause i'm not feeling a vast majority of this list.