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Thursday, March 12, 2009 06:01 PM

hmmm

If he had hit her first, then she hit him back, would the response have been the same?

Given ample precedent in the courts, if she shot him in response or stabbed him to death, she might have walked away scot-free.

Friday, March 13, 2009 05:39 PM

Wimmin Resist!

Sexist, lookist comments from m*n are not to be tolerated.

"I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig."

- Andrea Dworkin

Right on Sister!

Kill the pigm*n and you kill the Oppressor, the Patriarchal slave-system which oppresses and enslaves wimmin the world over.

These rapists should be hauled in front of a university tribunal and disciplined for their sexist, lookist, weightist comments.

Friday, March 13, 2009 05:42 PM

@zaharat

You're right. This is all about male privilege, and the power differential it creates between men and women in our society today.

The men with their compliments are flaunting their (probably white) male privilege in an offensive, uncomfortable way.

Saturday, March 14, 2009 10:12 AM

A poem

The Phallocracy

Oppresses through

Words, deeds and stares,

and "compliments".

Victimized, white, college-educated

women, working in offices

are victimized like

the black, impoverished sisters of

Darfur

Saturday, March 14, 2009 10:13 AM
Original article: All God's children

Women in control

I assume they are adults, with free will.

From this article, you'd never guess.

Thursday, March 19, 2009 02:00 PM

!!!!

Girls "see themselves as sharing equal responsibility with boys." ???!!!

How anti-feminist of them!!!

Friday, March 20, 2009 03:28 AM

Glad he didn't fight back - he would have been arrested for sure

'Kenley Collins, the catty, batty finalist on "Project Runway," really let the fur fly when she assaulted her now ex-fiancé with their pet feline in their Williamsburg apartment, authorities said yesterday.

The fashion designer, 26, was charged with assault and criminal possession of a weapon the weapon being the cat itself for her crazed attack on Zak Penley, 28, prosecutors said.

"It was a miscommunication," Kenley told The Post after getting released without bail from Brooklyn Supreme Court yesterday morning. "Fights happen, and that's that.

According to sources, the fur began to fly at 7 a.m. when Collins cocked her arm and threw one of the couple's two cats Arlo or Sandra at Penley, who was sleeping at the time.

She then threw her laptop as he fell and crawled on the floor, cops said. She also allegedly slammed a door on his head.

As Penley dialed 911, Collins threw three apples at him and doused him with water, cops said.

"You're lucky, it could have been worse," Collins told Penley after the blow, according to sources.'

Friday, March 20, 2009 12:48 PM

Wow, Kate

Haven't you been reading the papers for the past five years?

Sunday, March 22, 2009 10:45 AM

Women assault men all the time.....

Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence, Second Edition

The book that started a revolution in how with think about and deal with intimate partner violence ten years ago has now been published in a new expanded second edition! Available for the first time in a lower-cost paperback edition on Amazon.com or by ordering through your local bookstore.

Say the words "domestic violence," and images of battered women come to mind. Yet the more accurate picture is different, and it crosses genders. The overwhelming majority of all published peer-reviewed surveys show that both men and women are equally violent in their intimate partner relationships. Surveys show women strike the first blow in about half of the domestic disputes nationwide, and a National Violence Against Women Survey funded by the Centers for Disease Control and U.S. Justice Department, found that nearly 40 percent of all domestic violence victims are men.

Police in states nationwide are receiving training in how to identify the "primary aggressor" in domestic violence, and police crackdowns on spouse/partner abuse are netting more and more arrests of women as the abusers. It is not a form of violence particular to America, as similar increases in female batterers and arrests are being reported in England, too, and across Europe.

Add to that the more widely recognized issue of partner abuse by gay and lesbian couples, and it's clear why Philip W. Cook's book, Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence (Praeger, 1997) drew attention and praise nationwide from people and major news outlets as well as scholarly publications like The Journal of Marriage and Family and popular household advice sources including the Dear Abby and Ask Amy nationally syndicated columns.

On the 10th anniversary of that groundbreaking book, Cook began revising and expanding his work, resulting in this 2nd edition of a disturbing look at a trend that has in the last 10 years only increased. Millions of men are victims of abuse.

This new edition includes up-to-date surveys on the prevalence of intimate partner violence against men with personal interviews as well as cases drawn from headlines of recent media covering politicians, and other public figures. It also includes updates on law, legislation, court activity, social responses, police activity, support groups, batterer programs, and crisis intervention programs.

The final chapter contains a detailed and specific description of needed reforms in the current approach to intimate partner violence whether the victims are male or female. It is an agenda for reform that Murray Straus, Ph.D., co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire, calls “Important for our country.”

Buy it here: http://tinyurl.com/cu99aw

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