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From the NYT July 18, 2004
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9B07EED6113BF93BA25754C0A9629C8B63
"I found out I was having triplets when I went to my obstetrician. The doctor had just finished telling me I was going to have a low-risk pregnancy. She turned on the sonogram machine. There was a long pause, then she said, ''Are you sure you didn't take fertility drugs?'' I said, ''I'm positive.'' Peter and I were very shocked when she said there were three. ''You know, this changes everything,'' she said. ''You'll have to see a specialist.''
My immediate response was, I cannot have triplets. I was not married; I lived in a five-story walk-up in the East Village; I worked freelance; and I would have to go on bed rest in March. I lecture at colleges, and my biggest months are March and April. I would have to give up my main income for the rest of the year. There was a part of me that was sure I could work around that. But it was a matter of, Do I want to?
I looked at Peter and asked the doctor: ''Is it possible to get rid of one of them? Or two of them?'' The obstetrician wasn't an expert in selective reduction, but she knew that with a shot of potassium chloride you could eliminate one or more.
Having felt physically fine up to this point, I got on the subway afterward, and all of a sudden, I felt ill. I didn't want to eat anything. What I was going through seemed like a very unnatural experience. On the subway, Peter asked, ''Shouldn't we consider having triplets?'' And I had this adverse reaction: ''This is why they say it's the woman's choice, because you think I could just carry triplets. That's easy for you to say, but I'd have to give up my life.'' Not only would I have to be on bed rest at 20 weeks, I wouldn't be able to fly after 15. I was already at eight weeks. When I found out about the triplets, I felt like: It's not the back of a pickup at 16, but now I'm going to have to move to Staten Island. I'll never leave my house because I'll have to care for these children. I'll have to start shopping only at Costco and buying big jars of mayonnaise. Even in my moments of thinking about having three, I don't think that deep down I was ever considering it. "
It already is incentivized, and feminists would like to incentivize it further. Welcome to the feminist paradise.
Oh, and teen fathers have zero rights already, coupled with crushing obligations. Sorry, sisters - it will be hard to punish them beyond what they already experience.
Maybe they can just be sent away, so the state can provide for these young moms completely. Sounds like a plan well along already.
She died in 1995. Read his book P.A.M.B. - you could learn something.
Sometimes it's no longer useful to put the same, old political automatons back into office.
Hillary is one of those.
Obama represents a new way to run this country, a refreshing change from the other tired Democrats now running for the ticket.
And you, Carol, can seem to help yourself in swiftboating Obama just because his wife isn't the same old tired feminist that you represent.
It's time for a change - thank God for Obama!
This from a paper that ran an article greenlighting female pedophiles who have sex with boys.
"The Siren Song of Sex With Boys"
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/12/11/weekinreview/11zern.html
"..."We need to untangle the moral issues from the psychological issues from the legal issues," said Carol Tavris, the author of "The Mismeasure of Women" and a social psychologist. "That's the knot." She added: "You may not like something, but does that mean it should be illegal? If we have laws that are based on moral notions and developmental notions that are outdated, do we need to change the laws?"
Though it might seem that way from the headlines, women having sex with teenage boys is not new. A federal Department of Education study called "Educator Sexual Misconduct," released last year, found that 40 percent of the educators who had been reported for sexual misconduct with students were women..."
Sigh...I notice you fail to produce any data to support your comments. Yet another feminist man-bashing post.
Could this widespread misandry be one of many reasons men in America are deferring or avoiding marriage to the extent they are (see http://tinyurl.com/bovqj)?
When will the anti-male bigotry end?
You get the option of lifetime alimony after 10 years in California. You get half of marital property no matter when you divorce.
Yes, let's replace Arabic cultural oppression with American feminist oppression.
Real intelligent, Tracy.
Keep making the hardline feminist argument - tell those brown-skinned women what they should wear, how they should think, how they should live their lives.
It's about time people are made aware of just how bigoted college-educated white female feminism really is.
Keep telling them how to live their lives, and show feminism for what it really is.
Heart disease is the No. 1 killer of men and women in America, not the No. 1 killer of women.
The thesis of this article is wrong, as it misleadingly fails to cite the truth - heart disease is the No. 1 killer of men and women, and the morbidity and mortality associated with it has nothing to do with gender.
I hope you are also producing 50% of the household income, otherwise you're not really contributing to the household 50%, are you?
Wow. Thanks for firing up that neuron you have.
Great work there....
How on earth does a calendar promote "violence against women"?