I found the article on raw milk interesting…and maybe there are benefits but…In 1927 my father almost died from having a tubercular bowel…He got it from drinking raw milk. He was hospitalized, had major surgery, and then the doctors told his mother that he would not be coming home. He had a host of complications for the next couple of years but ultimately emerged healthy, strong, and amazingly athletic. He was beyond lucky and is still here today. I for one say “yay” to pasteurization.

I really enjoyed Bauer's article. I too was thrilled when I read an essay by David Sedaris telling his love of "One Life to Live"....Real life is hard. Good people get sick and suffer. There is betrayal...But there is also love and happiness and incredibly joyful moments. To me, good soaps take these elements and magnify them by about a thousand....I haven't watched "All my Children" in years, but "General Hospital" is my fix....The acting is incredible....And ulitimately, like the character of Erica Kane, the characters on GH somehow overcome, keep going, learn to live and love again....

I think the Edwards family has been through enough. Period. They seem to be committed to each other as couple through thick and thin.

Let's leave them alone....But i have to wonder about McCain....Is it true he left his first wife after she was in a bad car accident--the woman who waited for him while he was a prisoner of war? This would make him of very bad character indeed.

Cary Tennis has done it again. I loved his take on this young bride's situation....I am of her mindset and he put the state of mind and possible corresponding life path into words better than I could ever imagine. Thank you, Cary.

People make mistakes. And the reality is that yes marriage is hard, marriage takes work, but another part of that reality is that some folks are not cut out to be married. People who are of this persuasion often go through a period of self discovery where they fight the very idea, because being part of a couple is a goal for almost everyone else one knows. And if you say you like being single, people will challenge that notion to no end. Once you are older and have life experience, you realize that hey I just hear a different drummer and that's okay and accept the fact that other people may not understand this choice. This young woman is coming to realize that now. And she will make her choices accordingly. The ridiculous, sanctimonious scolders out there act like they have never made a mistake. It is brave to realize you are going down the wrong path and make a choice--a choice that nobody is gong to like--and move to the right path. I know so many people that stay in unhappy situations because they are immobilized by the fear of losing other people's acceptance or afraid to admit they were wrong. I wouldn't be surprised if the scolders out there are very bitter about something in their own lives and resent this young woman's courage to try to make a change. Maybe they are the ones who need to "grow up".

I usually agree with Cary, but this time I do not. I think this a potentially scary situation. I think the interrogations and accusations are a form of abuse. His need to control her and her travel are putting her job at risk. He has cancelled her credit card. He makes it so she has to walk on ice all the time so as to not upset him. She deserves peace. She deserves a life. She deserves someone who truly loves her--not someone who "loves" her in a warped and controlling way. He can't be trusted to be a supporting spouse. I don't care if he is cheating on not. He is making her life miserable. Get out while you still have a good job and can set up a new life for yourself. Be secretive about it until you are out the door--if that's what you need to do. But do it. Do it now. The situation will not get better--in all likelihood it will escalate to a need to control her in more situations and even to belittlement to undermine her confidence. Get out now.

I usually agree with Cary but not this time. I think she should cut all ties now. She will only become more entrenched, more guilt-ridden about leaving, and end up hurting the other person more in the long run when she finally has to leave. This is a time bomb. It is only a matter of days, months, years before this "friend" does something so upsetting it will floor you. The selfish disregard for other people's feelings and a hypersensitivity regarding her own will lead to her eventually doing something extremely upsetting or hurtful. Get out now. I've been through something similar. I knew a friendship was toxic but stayed in it --and boy do I regret it.