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After going through a long list of disappoints, terrors and what the hell was that abouts, a man wants to try something different. The hope is that perhaps another culture will be be more influential than american "culture" like Oprah, Dr. Phil and Sex in the City.

Honestly, white women tend to creep me out. This is due to behavior. They are not like they used to be at all. I would say that everything went south when Dr. Phil went on the air.

Before the 80s, people were sure a lot more human. What happened?

...having lived in Asia, observed the relationships of others and dated Asian men myself. One difference is that Chinese, at least, view the offspring of mixed couples as beautiful. That creates incentives for Chinese women to seek out a foreign spouse.

In my experience, most regret marrying a Western man. This is the case where the man lacks the work ethic of his Asian counterpart, leaving his wife to shoulder the load of supporting the family.

The woman just saw him as an American, assumed he was like the father figure in the TV shows, when instead it was someone who went abroad to escape the rat race and earn enough by teaching English to live on.

All sexual relationships take place in the context of a market in which individuals try to find partners who are the youngest and most attractive, or the most economically successful.

Thus biology explains both sides of the equation.

However, more economically successful men who are able to trawl the larger pools of attractive women in oriental populations, will tend to have many serial partners. And the women will have several concurrent partners, if they can get away with it.

I have never been to the orient, but I have seem the same patterns in Latin America, so I don't think it has anything to do with the erotic appeal of eastern women per se.

A situation which I took full advantage of. The memories still keep me warm on chilly nights.

The book being reviewed seems to have a silly focus on prostitution, which in my experience was totally unnecessary. The key factor on both sides is that little phrase 'sexual exoticism'. There is a universal attraction in being different from one's partner, Darwin's way of assuring genetic diversity in our species. As it is with blondes and basketball players, so it was in my day with Americans in Asia.

Historical context, economic analysis etc are all very important. But if you are talking about men under the age of about 35, this discussion is lacking unless it includes the influences of anime, and the various characters of the Lynn Minmay variety.

Good question, and I wish some Asian female salon readers would answer that question, but I doubt many of them will read more than a quarter of this article without becoming seriously bored.

I can give the perspective of a western male who was sent to almost South East Asian nation, and what the experience is like.

When I finished the U.S. Navy's Tech Core at the top of my class (2nd place in a group of 25), I had the chance to pick orders to where ever I wanted, and at 23 that was an easy choice to make, Japan.

Throughout my navy career the overwhelming percentage of my coworkers, including officers and chief, have either been married to Asian women, or were/are serious dating Asian women from China, Taiwan, the Philippines, South Korea, Singapore, Thailand, Vietnam and of course Japan.

Why the interest in Asian women?

Well, they usually know how to cook real good, usually know how to keep a good house, are usually extremely smart, and are usually a lot less prudish about sex than Western women are. And of course the silky dark hair, alluring eyes, and slim dainty build of Asian women has a lot to do with it.

I got my Asian goddess, and I aint complaining, or feeling the least bit guilty.

Just my 2 cents.

I'm in Singapore, a local man, and I can attest to the fact that the author isn't too far off the mark. I can't speak for other asian countries, but it is true in Singapore that any caucasian man, irregardless of age or general physical apperance, would find it easier to bed and/or wed local girls that in any other context would be "way outta their league". Not just good looking svelte waitresses looking for a sugar daddy either (although there are plenty of those), but also successful, driven executive types too.

Can't blame'em really. At least in Singapore, the only caucasians you are likely to meet are expat executives who most likely are working for an investment bank, management consultancy etc. Therefore, as a general rule, expats you meet are likely to be more well off, well educated, and articulate than your average local boy. Add to that a lifetime's worth of Hollywood indoctrination on what handsome men are supposed to look like, and add to that the attraction of the unknown (a certain "Westerner mystique"). Quite a package, no?

Its actually quite a source of consternation for locals. Visit the forum websites of local newspapers, and invariably there is always at least one popular forum thread complaining about local girls who date caucasian men exclusively. Me, I don't care so much. Firstly, I'm married so the point is academic to me. Secondly, I have long noticed a certain ugly refrain in those complaints, as if to say that local girls somehow "belong" to us, and they are being stolen in some way, or that those girl's behavior amounts to some sort of betrayl. I don't buy in to that kinda thinking. In matters of the heart, an individual owes no duty except to one's own happiness.

Besides, its not like we don't have an alternative. Share with you a funny, true anecdote. In Singapore, a certain Govt department called the SDU is tasked with encouraging white collar types to marry, settle down and have kids. For that purpose they offer attractive subsidised tour holidays for singles. Not so long ago, they send a large contigent of single Singaporean men and women on a cruise and extended stay in Japan, in the hopes that there would be hook-ups. This backfired. When the cruise ship left Tokyo, there were a considerable number of Japanese women at the docks crying their eyes out. Seems like the Singaporean men stole their hearts because it turned out that Singaporean men were as successful as their japanese counterparts but a whole lot less chauvanistic! I guess the grass is always greener on the other side.