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To those of you who respond to BDSM as being torture and say those who do it are "fucked-up" and need therapy...all you're doing is proving you are indeed "fucked-up." Ahhh, I see you can use my herbal enema!
BDSM is truly the most intimate way of experiencing what it is to be alive in a body. There is every flavor and experience possible in BDSM play...every possible thing from mild to wild. One size doesn't fit all. And there is, fortunately, every size available. There is no other way of being completely free and to learn about who you really are. Fortunately, within the context of a loving and honest relationship, delving into BDSM is absolutely natural...it IS what we all crave. We all want to experience and play with control and release...the act of even vanilla sex is just that...control and then release in orgasim. Sometimes you want to "take it." Sometimes you want to "fuck the shit out of it." Sometimes you want to selflessly give your partner all the pleasure you possible can without wanting an orgasim yourself. And this is just "vanilla sex," I'm talking about. What fantasies do you have when you are having vanilla sex? Come on...you all fantasize during sex.
If you attack BDSM as being sick, you are the sick one...and you don't even know it. Frankly, you need to quit being scared chickens who can only follow what you've been told is right. And if you can't find out what is right for you and your body and your psyche, you'll never become much more than superficial...you're opininons about most everything will merely be mimicking what you've been sold it right.
Become a much more mature and insightful person. Buy some nylon rope and a silk scarf and "play" a little. You'll be amazed how much fun "playing" is. You'll find out so much more about yourself...really!
