Letters to the Editor
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You know, anon, the difference between you and me is that I judge the behavior of people, and you judge "men" and "women
I understand perfectly, the line MUST be held: ONE truth, ONE right way, universal and triumphant decided for everyone by women. To even entertain the thought of anything else opens the floodgates of harrasment, rape, and oppression of women.
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should i have scratched, bitten, given him a black eye? perhaps i should have broken a limb? i didn't think it would be necessary.
Actually yes, that's exactly what you do when someone starts to be violent towards you.
I'm sorry you were raped, I know how horrible that is being that I was molested as a child.
What that taught me is words don't mean jack shit, actions do.
Good men, like my husband will jump off the second no, stop or ouch is uttered, but there are men who only know their desire.
When I was in middle school it was a fun game for the boys to pin a girl down and grope her, they tried that on me once, I elbowed the guy in his ribs, got out of his hold and punched him in the face, then I told him if he ever came near me or my friends again, I'd rip his dick off. He and his friends never came near me or my friends again, they just switched to focusing on the girls who put up with it.
I was at a party, in a room with a guy making out, he wanted to have sex, I did not and tried to leave. He made sure I couldn't, he didn't seem to grasp that I did not want to have sex until I put my hand around his throat and sqeezed till he couldn't breathe anymore. Then he was all okay, I'll get off you now and let you leave.
So yes, hitting, biting, scratching is completely acceptable when someone is going to violate your person.
I also think that even if I can't fight my way out of a rape, that any damage I have inflicted on him will be additional proof that I did not consent because rape is too much of a he said/she said crime.
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i think her point was that she shouldn't be REQUIRED to fight, not that it would be wrong to do so
although evidently it would have been a much more pleasant memory had she done so.
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simple solutions and answers
Men don't want women as friends. We only socialize with the intent of getting sex. If we wanted a friend we get a dog or see our real friends, other men. What about that do you not get? Women tend to attack each other and men work well in groups and naturally find a order in the process. What about that do you not get?
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men don't mind being friends if they can be friends with people they are sexually attracted to
but unlike women they don't want non sexual friends so bad that they are willing to voluntarily accept them as a substitute for sex.
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a small correction
I enjoyed your review of Laura Kipnis' new book. Just wanted to point out that "Against Love," which you refer to as her "first book," is actually her third. She has also written "Ecstacy Unlimited" and 'Bound and Gagged." A small point, I know, but one I think readers of your review might like to be made aware of, especially since you praise the new book so highly.
Aaron Kessler
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