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Editors like to try to gin up "Mommy wars" where none really exist to sell magazines. I know stay at homes, and they DON'T have nannies and housekeepers. They work very hard. Most people realize this is a decision that is personal, and usually dictated by less than ideal situations. Some women have to work, others have well paid flexible jobs they love. Other women have inflexible jobs and childcare costs outstrip their salaries. Some women are depressed by the lack of outsied interation, others thrive on it. Every family has to make the decision for itself.
There is no Mommy War. There are a set of navel gazing, omsecure. Type A writers with judgemental natures who feel the need to create conflict to get published.