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What I should have written is that the stay-at-home "traditional" moms as imagined by Caitlin Flanagan are hyper-neurotic. Most stay-at-home moms I know are working very hard and don't have the back-up help that CF does, and they don't have magazine jobs. They certainly don't crow constantly about the 24-7 mother-love they're giving their children.
I didn't mean to dump on all women who decide to stay at home, just the few nuts like CF who use the media to fluff their mommy feathers. Her vision just doesn't seem to match reality. (And that owing-your-husband-sex thing makes my skin crawl.)