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As you very rightly point out, what makes one women happy would make another miserable.
And a corrolary: the best environment for one child would not be the best for another.
Years ago feminists coined the phrase "the personal is political." At the time I think that was more about validating women's unrecognized struggles and experiences. But I think it also means that our individual experiences and unique circumstances cannot be addressed by one-size-fits-all solution.