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I suppose that it is different for women, but it is not like men in the East Village (at least some) don't objectify other men.
In HS (back in the feminist porn attack heyday) I always wanted to contradict my female friends in their claims that men aren't objectified in porn. I really wanted to just say "check out gay porn sister" and see if you don't see passive guys. Of course that would have required coming out, but that's a different story.
The whole point of dividing the world into a female species and a male species really leaves something out. Are gay men an intermediate gender (since apparently Vincent doesn't think even lesbians leave the female sphere)? I agree with the reviewer that it'd have been better for her to have explored being a gay man too.
Although I've always maintained that who you date breeds more solidarity than gender necessarily--e.g. gay men and fag hags...