Letters to the Editor
Emmamorgan
Published Letters: 3
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That was horrible advice.
[Read the article: My wife is a compulsive hoarder]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The house is an "unlivable fire hazard," there's a "young" son involved, and you're saying "give it a couple of years" because it will set a good example to your son about working on relationships? Huh? What happens when the house catches fire? When someone calls CPS?
How about setting the example that "You can only put up with so much crap from unreasonable people," take some pictures of the house for legal purposes, issue some ultimatums, then move out until and unless she decides to really deal with this problem?
I have no doubt that she is "anxious" about the idea of getting rid of her stuff, because that's how compulsive hoarders are. If this was just the guy living with her, then he could make the decision whether or not to put up with it. But when there's a child involved, the *adults' needs and mental illnesses take second place to that child's safety and security.*
"A couple of years" is a very long time for a young child to be in an unsafe situation, seeing unhealthy behavior at close hand. Hey if this guy plays his cards right, maybe his son will grow up to be a compulsive hoarder too!
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You so missed the mark on this one, you're not even in the same zip code.
[Read the article: My wife thinks I'm cheating on her -- but I'm not!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It is not this man's job to pander to his increasingly irrational wife, who, by the way, is hitting him. He can never "prove" to her satisfaction that he is not cheating on her; it is impossible to prove a negative, and a paranoid person will always find "evidence" to support their paranoia.
If a woman wrote this letter about her husband, I suspect (hope?) that you would not tell her to be more transparent to him and hope that fixed the problem.
His wife sounds mentally ill, which is sad, but this man should not have to put up with irrational accusations and physical abuse, and he cannot cure her mental illness by trying to reach some impossible goal of absolute full disclosure about every aspect of his life.
As a domestic violence counselor, I am rather appalled that you would tell someone being abused to, essentially, "try harder."
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The "Left"
[Read the article: My wife thinks I'm cheating on her -- but I'm not!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This leftist told Cary his advice sucked.