How and why does making this statement now somehow improve the Democrats chances to win back one or both houses of Congress? Was there a recent poll that showed negative numbers for impeachment among Dems or Independents? If so, I'd like to see her cite them in a press release. Regardless, I see no tactical advantage in taking impeachment off the table NOW, as opposed to later in the election cycle.

I'm one of Pelosi's direct constituents (I live in San Francisco) and, once upon a time, I was proud to call her my representative, not to mention House Minority Leader, but now, I'm not so sure. Way to fire up the base Nancy. And yep, you're about to hear from one of your "angry left" constituents (up until 2000 I was a moderate Dem, believe it or not).

MPV

King:

I might have missed this, since I let my subscription lapse for a few months, but I'd love to hear your take/breakdown of Johnson vs. Nelson, the differences between them and how they've responded to game-time situations. I've always liked Johnson, mostly because of his background, height, and enthusiasm for the game, but I never thought of him as a potential NBA coach. Guess there was a lot I (and others) didn't see. He seems to have easily transitioned from player to head coach (with stops in between). Heck, I'm rooting for Dallas to win and it's mostly because of Johnson (a first for me).

I thought hockey season was over. Heck, I didn't even know it had begun. Thought it had been permanently cancelled. Seriously, if it's not football, basketball, baseball, or European soccer, I'm just not interested (and I probably speak for the vast majority of non-Canadian Americans).

Sorry, someone had to say it. So yeah, King, keep the focus in your columns on the sporting events the majority of your readers are likely to watch. That is all.

Get married, I mean. I'm with other commenters here that see one too many red flags. Whether you think it's "healthy" to have ongoing relationships with your ex-es (I frankly don't) or think the letter writer is immature or insecure (again, I don't), this relationship isn't on solid enough ground for a long-term committment, let alone marriage.

From my perspective/experience, an ongoing relationship with an ex isn't generally a good idea, but if both parties ended the relationship through mutual agreement AND the relationship was long enough (i.e., more than a few months long), then I can understand why some people want to hold onto the friendship part of their relationship. Why does this woman feel compelled to have an ongoing relationship with every ex she's had over the last few years? Is that really a sign of mental health or some deep-seated egotism and need for attention from other men? AND it's not just men. A close friend of mine is friendly with 4-5 of his ex-es. More power to him, but as far as I know, he's never imposed meeting or spending time with his ex-es on his current g-friend.

Either way, the "let's be friends with my ex-es" thing isn' for everyone (it probably doesnt' work for most people) and it shouldn't be imposed on your current b-friend or g-friend just because it's your preference and you feel everyone should behave the same way.

Look, the letter writer obviously loves this woman and he'll probably go through with the marriage. I expect it won't last. Either way, Cary's advice is an important first step: sit down with this woman, clearly relate all of your concerns to her, AND, most importantly, lay down some ground rules in dealing with her ex-es that make you both comfortable (staying at an ex'es place is wildly inappropriate unless they're in a committed relationship and the ex and your g-friend/fiance split up long, long ago).

As for the therapy suggestion: if the letter writer wants to still give this relationship a go, then he should go for it, but so should his fiance, separately and together. I'd also suggest waiting on the marriage thing until both parties feel comfortable with this issue.

Seriously, it sounds like the LW's husband needs some therapy or someone objective (i.e., not his mother, not his wife, not even his best friend) to help him understand why his decision to photograph his mother nude for her wedding isn't the best of ideas.

As others have no doubt mentioned, what about the bridgegroom? Is he in on the decision or will the mother spring the pics on him on or after their wedding night? If he doesn't know, he should, and as soon as possible.

At minimum, the LW should reiterate her concerns and as much as I hate to suggest it, she should draw a bright line where her husband shouldn't cross (otherwise known as an ultimatum). On the "strength in numbers" argument, she should definitely get as much backup as possible to help her husband and his mother make the right choice for everyone involved.

Either way, best of luck to the LW. She's going to need it.