Walk away now. He will not get better until he is forced. I was terrible with money and credit in my 20 (and I'm now medicated for my ADD) and I got better. I got better because my partner got worse. We'd be homeless if not for my growing up about money.

Even if you control all the finances, and give him an allowence, he'll use your credit rating to get cards, and then he'll charmingly ruin your credit rating. Want to buy a car or a house without having to pay horrible interest rates? Get another boyfriend.

Or keep this one, but move him out, don't loan or give him money, and don't co-sign anything. And don't borrow from mom, dad or the bank.

I know this sounds dire, but you will save yourself a lifetime of embarrassment and heartache and sleepless nights.

What does this non "science girl" write, anyway? If this letter is any indication, it's at about a 5th grade level.

So, should she move in with her parents or stand on her own two feet and get a job? Or live in cloudland, where Cary and his rainbow unicorns will provide milk and honey? Or maybe she can meet a really nice guy and move in with him.

Here's what doesn't matter:

Future boss is English major.

Son goes to zoos.

Here's what does matter:

LW has been out of work for 3 years.

Sanchez and the baby's father are both schizophrenic. Who thought that they should reproduce?

And Susan Smith is a liar, liar, liar. She wanted to get rid of the kids for a new guy. No one involved with her case believed this fiction:

"It is the fact that these women have killed out of misguided love. "I felt I couldn't be a good mom anymore, but I didn't want my children to grow up without a mom," Susan Smith confessed, explaining that she intended to kill herself along with her children."

It's not a fact. I'm amazed Diana Downs isn't included in this.

And the reference to England's law is laughable. The statistics have been fouled up for years.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/thereporters/markeaston/2008/11/we_must_never_let_it.html

Was this letter written by the oldest living middle-schooler in the world? Who cares?

Cary really needs better readers.

"I'm thinking of moving to New York and being a part of this newfangled media revolution. "

What planet are you on? There's no such thing, there's no jobs, stay where you are and do whatever, it's not going to matter.

Jaundice! This piece is about jaundice? Big deal, dude. Buy a light.

"Directly following the birth, we were taken to a large ward whose 20-odd beds were separated by curtains and changing tables. "

Directly following the birth of my children, I was taken to a private room, thanks to the insurance I had cleverly paid for, by the sweat of my brow.

Common decency that you don't pay for is all well and good, but I actually prefer to rely on myself, rather than the kindness of people employed by the government.

Dr. Dredd--Amidon grossly inflates the dangers of infant jaundice, just as he grossly inflates the joys of the NHS. I wonder if his wife, who actually gave birth and then was stuck in a 20 bed ward, felt the same way.

Yes, severe jaundice can mean a transfusion, but most cases require phototherapy. Which his child got, and which he could have actually done at home.

You're not Sam Tanenhaus, so stifle yourself, and tell your friend that her friendship is so imporant to you, that you're not remotely objective. Encourage her to join a writer's group. No one is asking you to blurb it.

And Cary must be paid by the word.

of the people Joan Walsh approves. Like the curate and his egg, Walsh finds parts of the Bill of Rights to be excellent.

Doesn't anyone recall Caroline Kennedy's work for Rolling Stone at Elvis Presley's funeral? His family thought she came as a mourner, but she used her status and name to "report" for RS.

Nancy Pelosi's daughter used her connections to work for HBO as a "documentary filmmaker"--and her work is pretty good.

Al Gore's daughter caught a little work on Saturday Night Live--again, did a good job.

What's the bfd? She's doing segments once a month, and she's hardly "reporting". This isn't breaking news journalism, it's filler. She can't be worse than hundreds of others.

"Especially since our daughter is so proud of her Mexican heritage, and always enjoys Cinco de Mayo. "

Enjoying a beer holiday is a sure sign of Czech heritage.

Too bad this idiot reproduced at all.

This should be the tip-off: "When I lost my job about a year ago"

I agree about the unreliable narrator. I think the LW thought she'd married into money, and there isn't as much flowing her way as she thought. The couple are saving money and planning to move to Colorado in a couple of years? I'll bet they never go.

I don't quite buy her concern for the auntie's feelings. 75 isn't that old, and auntie may want to get fair market value for the rental unit.

As the husband has known only horrible women, doesn't the LW wonder what he saw in her?

Phylis Chesler's actually lived in a predominately Muslim county. Wolf's done some parachute, toe-touch journalism and infers from her sojourns. Does she speak Arabic? Or did she just meet some sympathetic English-speaking women who told her what she wanted to hear?

Juliebird repeats a cliche popular with those who've never started a business

"wealth

particularly inherited wealth, is the killer of innovation.

You need to be a little desperate to be creative."

That poor Bill Gates.

The assembly line is in China. The janitorial workers are undocumented.

Kansasgirl's got it. This guy didn't learn chaotic living from a website. I'm willing to bet that there's a backstory full of comings and goings, jobs and schools and interventions.