The letter writer was pretty clear about what he wanted. He didn't say he wanted women fighting over him. He didn't say that he wanted a "fuck toy." He said that he wanted " committed relationships that included occasional, mutually agreed-upon threesomes with women whom my partner and I both desired and who in turn enjoyed being with a couple. " He never said he expected all women, or even most women, to be interested in this. He just said it was what he was interested in.

He didn't sound manipulative or pushy, and didn't seem to be forcing anyone into any kind of bisexual, polyamorous box that they didn't want to be in, or judging anyone for not wanting what he wants. Pay him the same respect, and don't judge him for not trying to fit himself into whatever monogomous box fits your approval. Its clearly not what he wants.

He didn't say he was miserable. Just frustrated.

Yes, this is one of the lesser problems that has come up in this advice column. So what? Life or death issues aren't the only ones worthy of consideration and discussion.

Letter writer gives no indication that he holds his problem to be anything more than it is - a frustration.

I'm sorry, but I think you are reading much more misery into this letter than there is present. And you must admit, since he doesn't use the word misery anywhere in his letter, it is something that you are reading into it.

Yes, he speaks a bit melodramatically about the seeming insurmountability of his problem. He also speaks of having had fulfilling relationships in the past. He also indicates a quite loving relationship with his parents. Nowhere in his letter does he indicate that he is anything but happy and content with the rest of his life, or that his problem in this area is anything but confined to its realm.

His call for compassion and sympathy at the end of his letter seems pretty clearly made not out of a general need for people to feel sorry for him, but rather in anticipation of being bashed for publicly airing a problem he is having with a lifestyle choice that he knew others would judge harshly. His anticipation in this regard seems prescient. I would like to echo his call - have some compassion.

"Despite the media hype, there are very few actual bisexual women in the world. What really exists are SOME women who are lesbians, but because of conventions and the way they were raised, etc., still have some sex with men. (There are also some college girls playing at being lesbians.) But TRUE bisexuality is very rare. (Scientists believe it is virtually unknown in males.)"

A 2002 survey by the National Center for Health Statistics says that 2.8 percent of women self-identify as bisexual (and 3.8 identify as "something else"). In a city of 1 million people, that would be about 14,000 bisexual women. It ain't shooting fish in a barrel, but I would hardly call those odds overwhelming.

Of course, we all know, courtesy of you, that those women really aren't bisexual, despite their own self identification. They are really lesbians who still have sex with men because of "convention," or college girls "playing" at being lesbian. Apparently, you know their sexual preferences better than they do.

"Even if you can find two actual bisexual women, who also great sports, and want a threesome AND desire you -- we have no idea if you are all that great a catch, good looking or even good in bed. What precisely is it you are offering these women to make this attractive to them? Are you rich, handsome, sexually skilled, brilliant, entertaining?"

He's not soliciting you. Why are you taking this so personally? If this is not a personal response on your part, then what is it, other than a cheap shot at the letter writer that is ultimately irrelevant to his letter? Shouldn't you just let the women he interacts with decide these things for themselves? Why is that any of your (or our) business?

"In other words, this looks like a deal which is all about you and not much about them or their individual desires."

That's absolutely not what Letter Writer said. He said he was looking for "committed relationships that included occasional, mutually agreed-upon threesomes with women whom my partner and I both desired and who in turn enjoyed being with a couple. " The key words in that sentence are "mutual" and "both."

"For most people, the best thing about sex is not simply orgasms, but having the intense undivided attention of another person, hopefully a person you both love and desire."

Once again, you apparently know better than the rest of us what our sexuality is really all about. Thank you for letting us in on what we all really want in our sex lives. Now we can all take whatever steps are necessary to conform our sex lives accordingly so that they can all fit into that proper box.

In the 90s, after losing his own battle for a stimulus package, Bill Clinton took on the national debt. When it started to shrink, interest rates fell, banks started lending, and people started spending. The result was an unprecedented decade of low inflation and high employment - as well as a whole lot of technical and scientific innovation.

"Economic Stimulus" in the form of a huge government debt and an interest rate held artificially low, is exactly what got us into this credit mess in the first place. Like Sanford said, when you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.

....because the deficit was shrinking. That's the exact point I made.

If I recall correctly, we did have a bit of a recession in the early 90's, before Clinton took office and tackled the deficit. In fact, I believe it was kind of a big issue in the 92 Presidential campaign - hence, the stimulus package that Clinton wanted but didn't get.