Bummer of a story but if you think about it, what like half of marriages end in divorce, so, that's just how it goes. Marriage and joint finances can really wreck a good time.

DTMFA. He made you give up stuff you loved? How did that happen? Maybe he's blind to your goals/loves/etc or you communicate poorly.

Do you think he knows he did all this to you?

If he's not into what you want to do, you can still be friends. Either way, you've got free will. Like others said, get out before kids come along and really mess you up.

You guys don't trust each other. Have fun, enjoy each others company and don't take it so seriously.

BTW, don't move unless you can imagine swinging it if she dumps you.

Heather has to bring her marriage and the Iraq war into a discussion of Crusoe? Damn. Get out a little will you?

These blowhards need to be held accountable too. In any case, biggest ups ever for my fellow Americans. We were simply smarter than these idiots.

McCain was right, the pundits didn't know what they were talking about - mostly.

Eight years! Finally!

Yes or no, do you think it's a good idea to bomb the pentagon to 'wake up' the establishment?

Seems like a simple question. The fact that he talks about his regrets, about being against Vietnam (as if he was the only one), and how he's pro peace, etc, doesn't justify his actions to me.

BTW, I'm against war as much as you are Bill, just don't like rich boys turned terrorists turned self aggrandazing profs. What a cliche.

Your dipshit friends deserved to blow themselves up.

If you want to get laid, go on craigslist, detail you requirements. You are a woman. You will get response.

If you want something else, like a relationship, figure out what's in it for the other person, not just you. Let's see what guy want's a zaftig, whiny woman who isn't really into sex? They probably exist, find one and there you go.

When I read articles like this I begin to wonder if goddamn nuns didn't have it right - men give affection for sex, women give sex for affection.

Look at Lori Gottlieb. She want's a Will from Will And Grace as her partner. Notice he's gay? That way she doesn't have to think about sex, which she probably doesnt' care for, and she has some cute, clever guy to laugh at all her girly problems with. Awesome, except no gay guy wants to do the dirty work of raising a straight womans kid, except for Clay Aiken. Good luck Lori.

I applaud the author for being honest about what she wants/needs. Here's the deal - most guys get married cause they are getting laid and they think it's the best access to it they're gonna get. To that end they' promise anything - financial security, love, a house, stability. This works when the guy is happy enough in the arrangement and hes says 'Im not gonna do any better.'

The guy who's got the whole deal down is George Clooney, he gets to have sex with hot women all the time. The women get to say that had sex with him. That's the deal every dude want's. Raising kids and playing house is for girls. Those who can get out of it do.

"Which explains why we -- the old, the crusty, the irrelevant -- watch shows about teenagers, even though they make us feel old and crusty and irrelevant."

What does this have to do with the quality of the show?

Like the author says, if Caroline wanted to run and won, that's one thing. Just getting appointed?

For those of you who support her candidacy, at least be honest. If someone with her credentials but a different last name was vying for this gig you'd be saying 'Try running for dogcatcher first.' The insufferable baby generation just wants some nostalgia, hero worship and nepotism and it want's to call it something other than that. Please be honest with yourselves people!

"We dance our little dance and pursue the circuit of our dreams insofar as the bus schedules permit." How cute.

Good thing that Wobegon gig's working out for you.

The one guy was unambitious, so why is that a problem?

The other guy might end up being a Dr. Is being a Dr's wife your goal?

Can you evaluate men on anything other than their career prospects?

Maybe you should focus on your own career and try to have guys around you when you like their company, regardless of what how they pay the bills.

Like the other commentors and Cary, I think this situation isn't what's best for you. You should get a place of your own and if you want to continue a relationship with the guy there's no problem with that. It seems like living with this girl is what's bothering you and that's perfectly fair. Living with people isn't easy in the best of circumstances. Dad doesn't seem to be able to make decisions or handle things. Do what's right for you and it'll no doubt be best for everyone. This arrangement you have sounds terrible.

Cary - "To be blunt, I would say: Stop trying to take care of her. She is bullying you and you are falling for it."

It's not going to get any better dude. What if you do get a good career and make lots of money. Think she'll treat you better then? I doubt it sincerely. And in any case, you might get laid off, business could die off in your profession. You could get laid up with illness or in an accident. Think she'll be there for you then?

You guys are young. If she can't handle it now, when you're a student, wait til you have a mortgage and kids and an SUV.