LW, I didn't get from the letter that you and your bf had really discussed this issue deeply. His remarks sounded off hand. What would he say to direct questions? If it's on your mind, ask. You may not have compatible goals. If you've been together for a year, you should be able to talk about the future together. If it's a joke to him, well, I wouldn't blame anyone for having a problem with that. I would. (You may be different from me, I know, just saying. A little sincerity is something I value.)

There are lots of women raising kids by men who simply aren't interested in being fathers. Keep that in mind.

For what it's worth, I think a lot of people appreciate your situation.

Best of luck. You sound very smart about your situation by the way. It's not easy to really understand what you want.

Broadsheet should start commenting on Salon itself.

I didn't a tv column was supposed to shame and denigrate women.

Who's the slut or whore here? Sex workers? Women who make bad marriage choices? Or women who score cheap points making fun of them in the surprisingly regressive Salon reviews?

Please give Pat Robertson my regards Heather. I didn't know that's what Salon had come to.

I've enjoyed many of his essays, particularly the literary ones, as well as his first autobiography - Palimpsest (sp).

On the other hand I can see how he might be considered a crank. He's spent a big chunk of his live giving self regarding interviews, acting like he invented atheism, etc.

As far as his fiction, I read Myra Breckenridge and it was mildly amusing but not particularly memorable.

Your mileage may vary.

Maybe you're being ironic so it's ok. What did the job description for TV critic for Salon say: Must sneer at everything? Guess it's relieves you of actually having to write or think for a living.

I have some basic questions from this debate. Anyone know the answers to these?

Does thimeseral (sp) have mercury in it? If so, can they get rid of it? Is there any reason why they don't? Is it possible that some people have a negative reaction to mercury in vaccines? Do autistic tend to have higher mercury levels in their blood?

Good to know and I appreciate the direct answers. At this point, it seems like Jenny and those guys got what they wanted (from the last link in the article):

"Still, thimerosal was removed from essentially all childhood vaccines in 2001 in response to autism fears. But autism rates have continued to rise, leaving many experts to consider the case against thimerosal settled."

The kvetchy books about the 'hook up culture' are bs for sure. That said, I think Tracey just wants to brag about how good her sex life is and how easily she can get some.

People have been hooking up forever. Maybe they talk about it more now.

Between this and TCF's expose on her love life, I get the impression Salon has turned itself into an expose style, younger, but still cliched, Cosmo. TCF has dated (and screwed!) Lawyers with great bay area views from their awesome pads. Heather writes a whole article about her concerns about saving, without, of course, telling us what she and her husband make, their realistic prospects, etc. It's just enough, apparently that Heather is having some concerns. Great. Join the real world.

There was a guy some weeks back who wrote an article about how bad he was at keeping up his house. He wasn't interested in learning how to become a diligent, responsible, home owner, he wanted to just say 'Look at me. Isn't life is absurd'.

The lack of self awareness by Salon writers is fucking staggering.

That's what you do (badly). Figuring out retirement income is going to be totally out of you're league. We all know this. Good luck.

ORLY? Heather makes her living calling actresses and reality tv stars 'sluts', that's her word. Now she's realizing that she might have problems herself? That's not beating up. Heather's spends her life sneering at other people and now she's worried about her finances. Cry me a river.

Also, you don't need a PHD to figure out how to pay your bills, save and plan for the future. Spare me the drama all you hypocrites.

I can totally relate to your situation. Lot's of people have been there or are there now. It's tough out there for sure.

Thanks for the article.

Heather the TV critic's favorite thing is to call women sluts. That's her whole shtick.

I didn't see any postives in the situation here either. If you don't want to - don't. Are you being held hostage or what? Why do you 'seem' to be moving in? Do you have a problem saying no? (A real problem in my book. And I think especially so for younger people like yourself.)

I definitely think it's best for this man and his child to not be with someone who resents their existence. That sounds harsh but that's what I got from the letter. If the scene isn't right for you, it isn't what you want, you shouldn't be moving in. You don't want to so tell the bf you want to cool it.

You didn't call anyone a slut! Oh well, guess I can wait a week or two til you check out the shows some more. Cmon girl, we need you to do this to show us how much better you are than this trailer trash reality stuff, this actressy bullshit, these uneducated skanks. It's all about you Heath! Lolz!

This is why I always was and will be for abortion.

You basically use God to justify whatever your point of view is:

"Don't you think God finds these smug egomaniacs morally

repellent."

Sounds like a h8ter to me. Might want to look in the mirror Anne. Casting stones and all that you know.