THis article leaves me with quite a few questions.

Why did the family only send their son to a private school after he started decided to be a 'wigga'? In San Francisco are public elementary and middle schools in a better state than high schools or was the impetus their sons' adoption of black street thug culture?

Also, did his new adulation of Tupac--singer "Dear Mama" and convicted of sexual assault--have anything to do with his slipping grades?

Speaking of declining academic standards--I really need to edit my letters before I post them. That last one is embarrassing.

When will I be able to read an article in Salon sneering at fathers who make sacrifices for their families?

Or does Rebecca Traister only loathe women who do that?

--The magazine Total 180! sounds weak, but I cannot imagine it is anywhere nowhere as offensive as Traister's naive condescension.

I followed Valga's link, and he's right. It looks like plagiarism

This letter has to be a gag. Nobody is so unaware that in this situation they would think the solution to the much adored problem is a new wardrobe for his wife.

The person who mentioned how inappropriate it would be if he accepted a drink from 2 women was right on the money, and you could run with that to show how humiliating (or probably titillating for this guy) it would be if the wife accepted drinks from 2 men and thought they should sit together.

But, why am I acting as if this were a real letter? It's so similar to the article from The Onion, "Why Do All These Homosexuals Keep Sucking My C..."

http://www.theonion.com/content/node/33540

I think the main reason people are so upset about J. Courtney Sullivan's article is that they see someone fulfilling a ridiculous stereotype. There's nothing wrong with feminism and an interest in women's issues. Overt hostility and launching into angry tirades against a whole gender on the second date though is unpleasant enough to make anyone who has ever been on a date cringe.

Personally, I feel strongly about the war in Chechnya. However never once on a date did I ever inflict stories of the atrocities and injustices happening there on a poor girl who came out hoping for a nice time.

It's common sense and good manners.

I think the big question is if your wife would really want you to go with her.

If she does and she just wants to have foreign adventures then the marriage has a chance. It sounds like the wife is fairly flaky--she will only work with the Peace Corps but she doesn't seem to be aware of the requirements the Peace Corps has for married volunteers. As somebody else pointed out, she's probably in the honeymoon phase of her foreign-volunteer work (sad that she's not in the honeymoon phase of the marriage after only a year) and is afraid that she'll be giving up her chances of having an exciting life if she returns to the US and settles down with her husband.

My big worry comes from her insistence on joining the Peace Corps and not one of the many other outfits that would allow her to live and work in the developing world. It sounds like the Peace Corps demands that both she and her husband will have to work for them, or she'll have to be single before she goes. If she knows her husband isn't the Peace Corps type this is a convenient excuse for a divorce.

What she needs to do is come home at the end of the summer and you guys need to figure out how to accommodate everyone involved. No reason for a marriage counselor.

You can work it out. She could join the State Department or AID and you could go with her and find a job similar to the one you have in the US; you could stay in the States and your wife could take a job with summers off that would allow her to volunteer abroad every summer; she could go into academia and specialize in the locales and problems that interest her while keeping a base in the US. There are so many ways that you guys could work this out--I know, I'm a little like your wife in my need for foreign adventures and my situation is even more complicated--but if your wife insists on the Peace Corps or nothing, then you married someone who is far too immature and selfish to be in an adult relationship, much less a marriage.

Good luck.

You're actually asking if you should stick with your girlfriend since she was diagnosed with cancer?

Jesus, you're an ass.

But you probably should leave her. Nobody going through a serious illness should have to deal with such a selfish and immature partner.

Are there any adults in America anymore? The LW is 30, not 13. Message to America: Most 30 year olds in the world are raising families, working, supporting people, yet middle class Americans insist that age is a state of mind and at 30 you're still just a kid. You're not. When you turned 18 you became adults, now start acting like it. Turn off your Playstations and start taking care of people besides yourself.