Letters to the Editor
lollypotter
Published Letters: 23
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Tis the daughter I feel sorry for
[Read the article: My wife was having an emotional affair for years behind my back]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Can somebody please pass the child to a more stable family member (maybe one of her older siblings) before she starts stripping to fund her heroin addiction! Seriously though, don't get divorced - save your money for your child's therapy bills.
You deserve each other. She is the only victim.
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ourwisemodel
[Read the article: My son is almost 30 and won't leave home]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Majored in anthropolgy did you, you arrogant defensive jerk
Oooooohh... Tara disrupted your lazy arse thesis about cultures you know nothing about so you threw your toys out of the pram!!
"In Antarctica the LW's son couldn't move far away because...", "In the hilly regions of eastern Spain circa 1665, the lw would.."
So the fuck what! Seriously!
Your laughable attempts to invoke other cultures like an expert reveal you for the embarrassment you are.
Here’s a lesson in cultural relevance dickhead – drawing spurious cross-cultural pronouncements on family (as your first post did) have no meaning without cultural context and so is lazy and POINTLESS.
When you've been completely and totally owned at least have the self awareness to sit down and shut up.
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This is how it happens
[Read the article: I left an abusive marriage, and now I'm in love with a thief]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This is how these relationships start. It's annoying to watch but there's nothing you can do but watch people destroy their own lives.
My test for the LW is this: If you've got your 'shit' together so well, then explain to me
a) What drew you to the abusive first husband and what were you getting from it? Not what he did, what you did to get there.
b) What plan have you put into action to deal with those same traits IN YOURSELF in relationships from now on.
I think you're very annoying personally, but I can't help but feel sorry for yet another tough lesson you're going to learn. I like the fact that you called it 'Abused Woman Crap'. If it's such crap, why were you with an abuser for years? You want it straight LW? I have self esteem. I've never been hit or stolen from by a man. I'd feel embarassed to be suckered in by the lazy bullshit this guy is pulling. I don't need to find has-been losers to date because I'm not old and damaged. I have better self esteem than you, am younger than you, am better looking than you, and probably have a much better life than you (for a start, no grave robbing boyfriend) - why would I need to lie to you?
We're all lying to you, aren't we? We're all stupid. Really. Only you and your boyfriend understand your relationship. It's so special, just like your earlier one - the one where he tried to destroy you.
We tried. Just remember this in a few years when your life is in a shambles. I know it won't happen, you've got your shit together - remember? You're perfect, we're stupid.
Good luck.
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Well, good luck
[Read the article: I left an abusive marriage, and now I'm in love with a thief]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I personally find you quite unconvincing, especially since you seem very eager to play the victim here - overly defensive, irrational (what did you expect people to judge you on - your biography? You gave a few lines of text), brittle. You're clearly twisting people's points and won't address the most convincing posts. Avoidance, denial, defensiveness - old friends?
You seem convinced of your path and you will clearly do what you want to do. You clearly feel like you've got it all figured out and maybe we're not as far along as you are, you know, on the path to enlightenment. Well, if that's the case, and guys who steal from dying relatives and are attracted to women with a history of picking abusive losers, then I've been clearly missing out on the jackpot. I'm calling a taxi to drop me off at the nearest parole hearing asap - might find a good man there!
I think that this guy is probably the best you can do. It's very difficult for people to change - and the person resistant to change here is you. You feel that it's cruel to set objective standards and kick him out because he's been great to you, even though you don't trust him. In other words you're ignoring your better judgement because he's misunderstood, right? I can't believe this doesn't sound in the least bit familiar to you. I've worked with abused women and they are some of the most stupid people you can ever meet. I'm sorry if it's harsh but most of them can find a loser ANYWHERE. In fact, we could save the tax payer a LOT of money if we just tagged these women and sent them to bars - guaranteed that whoever they pick up is a criminal. Seriously.
This is not about 'women', this is about people with low self esteem being unable to make good decisions. And people with newly found self esteem being poor judges of character.
LW, print these letters out and keep them. In two years when you realize he's your ex husband, do everyone a favour and get sterilised.
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Poor Alfonso
[Read the article: My boyfriend won't give me his apartment key]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]All those evil wimmin and their 'feminism', eh?
Lol
The boyfriend wants the girl to run errands for him and rearrange her life to make his more convenient. I don't see him shopping for her or going round to her apartment all hours of the day. Yet he doesn't want her to have a key. She is basically his housekeeper but without a key.
Or s/he is basically his or her housekeeper but without a key. (Or whatever gender neutral sentence wont offend his majesty).
This is not about gender, this is about power. I've met plenty of women who control their boyfriends and vice versa. Either way it is unhealthy.