OK, Cary usually gives out some pretty great advice. On occasion, his writing is absolutely brilliant and moving, but on this one, he missed the boat completely (except the ending 2 sentences, which seemed to contradict the several paragraphs he'd written before).

I'm a feminist. Sure, I'll cop to the benighted "f" word. (The other one...) Inherently, this means I seek the same rights for women as for men. This also means, at least for me, I hold the same standards for women as for men and this woman, make no mistake, is a batterer and a very, very dangerous person to this man--physically and emotionally.

Sure, men are way better at battering women. It's body dimorphism. They have 40% more upper body strength. But women batter too and many men will not hit them back even in self-defense. Women who do these things are disturbed, to say the least. They are pretty much identical, emotionally and psychologically, to their male counterparts.

Had the sexes been reversed, Cary would never have told a woman to stay with a man who beats her and try to find out what emotions the battered woman was keeping from the abusive man.

Nope, I don't buy it; I don't like it; I find it offensive as a human being and as a feminist. Here's my advice to the man:

GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. Run, do not walk. You cannot fix this woman. Only she can and she doesn't seem like she's up to that right now. An abuser is an abuser and with the added stress of marriage, she will only get worse. You love her, but why do you love someone who causes you physical injury? WHo even attempts to kick you in the groin--to disable you completely? Respect yourself enough to GET OUT and find a woman who can't imagine physically harming you.

In the long run, you will save yourself a great deal of physical and emotional pain.

Entitled, "So Very Craven". And here it is:

So you’re funny, by your own admission, eh? Wow. How unusual and brave a statement. You sure didn’t show it in your article which attempted to paint Stephen Colbert as “so not funny.” And by the way, kudos for that fabulous title. Did it take you actual time to think that up? Or did you just phone it in?

Face it: you’re just another ticked-off member of the mainstream press whose feathers were badly ruffled by a very funny and very sarcastic comedian a few nights ago. He was funny. Why? Because he is funny on a regular basis and because most Americans, if they got to see that clip, would’ve laughed and clapped. The power of comedy, many times, is in satire and that is where his comedy was. If you don’t get that, you should not have a job as a writer. Just because you (and so much of the mainstream press, now so graciously deigning to actually report on the event—thanks!) are angry that you and so many other cowardly, spineless news hacks DO NOT DO YOUR JOBS, do not question a president so terrible and such a failure that he makes Buchanan look capable, parrot the lines of this administration like some kind of Ministry of Information, back down and cower when the Press Secretary looks at you funny (uhoh, don’t want to piss off Scotty; we won’t get in next time!). Damn. You people would make Edward Murrow and his ilk want to vomit. The Press used to be the ally of the People. Now, you’re an extension of government—it’s ever-ready helping hand. Well, sir, I say to you, as a member of the People: fuck you. We don’t have the press anymore. We have comedians. And you’re even trying to flatten them.

Craven bunch of liars. What the hell happened to all of you? The man was funny and you are angry and have access to a newspaper. Spin it all you want. Hell, it’s all we expect from you anyway. The people know the truth, as hard as you all may try to hide or ignore it.

Yours in truthiness,

Kristin H