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Published Letters: 127 Editor's Choice: 2
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someone like...
[Read the article: I'm a small-town girl dreaming of the big-city lights]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Big Ego:
I'd date you in a second, if you only had the courage to move someplace where someone like me could find you.
ASB,
I don't think you should base LW's courage on where you (or people like you) would like her to be. She doesn't need to be found by anyone--she needs to find herself. You're implying she doesn't have courage if she won't move--so what kind of balls do you have hangin' out in your big city? Kind of self-centered, don't you think? If she'll tell you where she is, go over there and get her.
LW, #2 and good luck. You're a small-town girl with big dreams, and watch out for encounters with big city egos. Listen to the good folks who've given you all sorts of options in all sorts of places. Don't listen to anyone who presumes who/what you are based on the choices you've made in the past and the questions you ask in the present.
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yoohoo, judgmental readers...
[Read the article: I feel terrible about leaving but I have to go]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I suggest you read LW's response to you again:
http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2007/05/25/leaving/permalink/51bcf45a0b7ea5cdf6b9df8b33420cf2.html
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well, that was a dud
[Read the article: I feel terrible about leaving but I have to go]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]the link, I mean.
I think LW does an excellent job of defending herself:
http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2007/05/25/leaving/
permalink/51bcf45a0b7ea5cdf6b
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We all want to feel special...
[Read the article: How can we get back the thrill in our relationship?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]A couple of these last posts, if put together, echo what I want to say about the LW.
1) He's full of himself.
2) Hopefully, it's just a phase.
I think he'll be fine. All of us had to be put in place at some point or another, and he'll come back to earth once he enters the Real World, and even that takes at least ten years to which to adjust.
I'll cut the LW some slack because he's on a worthwhile path--too many people give up on being "special" and don't know how talented and intelligent they are and how much more they can be. I went to a prestigious university as well, work in another one right now, and for over ten years I've been surrounded by smart, good-looking, cosmopolitan people who've traveled all around the world.
I've been here and there, but I'm not anything like them.
Did they learn anything from their good fortune and privilege? Only that it had to be perpetuated for the rest of their lives.
That's what they do with their education--increase their purchasing power and notoriety. Occasionally take some trips "just to get away."
They're not heartless, retaining a cursory sympathy toward people not like themselves... those who are balancing school and child care, in menial labor to afford night classes, going through bad marriages and therapy, emotional disorders, have special needs and handicaps, recovering from business failures and lay-offs, and those of us who don't exactly hit a 10 on the prettiness scale.
I asked a globetrotting friend (smart, big-name diploma) what he learned during his two weeks in Costa Rica, and he stammered and groped for an answer, taken by surprise that someone would ask him that. I'm surprised no one asked. (Ha, I should ambush people like that more often.)
One can be something and go somewhere, and here's another hackneyed principle: wisdom and maturity come with time. LW is a bit young and inexperienced yet.
You have a lot, LW. Don't take it for granted. Learn one day at a time. This is a lifelong assignment with no homework, so you'll have to decide for yourself what you've discovered. The specialness meter goes back to 0 at midnight. Be careful, as in, be full of care.
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Love that L.A. attitude
[Read the article: I love L.A.]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Anonymous posted:
We don't need any more residents. We don't want any more mid-westerners (or southerners or new yorkers or ...) packing up the Buick and heading this way. They've been packing up and heading this way for the last 100 or so years and now we've got all we need. Turn around. Go home.
Yep, you've convinced me. Think I'll run into the open and welcoming arms of the buttes and tetons.
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Beauty
[Read the article: I love L.A.]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I usually stay in a place because of the place; I usually leave a place because of the people.
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A husband who slaps his wife because she publicizes their poor sex life?
[Read the article: Her sexy T-shirt says "Kitty Not Happy" -- is that OK at work?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Personally, if I were her husband and she went out of the house wearing this, or even wore it at home, come to think of it, I would want to give her a good slapping. Am I a bad person?
LW, you come really, really close.
You are putting yourself in the husband's pants (double entendre) and theoretically reacting to his (your) humiliation with violence.
You should really think about yourself before you deign to think about other people's clothing.
Guess who has the bigger problem? Not you. That should make you feel better.
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You said it, teneuse
[Read the article: Will Cambodian food ever catch on in America?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]New York as a place is great; I don't live there 'cause of the people. Too many to wade through to find the genuinely kind and tolerant ones. I had friends who moved to New York... I'd go and visit them, enjoying the unbelievable variety of ethnic cuisine. And then those friends became assholes. Don't know, it just happened. Never in 30 years, and then, boom. So I don't go anymore. Nope, not even for the food. The people were too much of a pain, and all they ever talked about what what they saw and did in The City. Themselves, in other words. I'm content with Elephant Walk and a few west-coast Cambodian jewels.
Great article, really enlightened me today. An inviting and pleasing experience.
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No tomatoes in the East
[Read the article: Should I stay East or go West?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]No beaches, either.
And soon, no snow.
We do have dandelions, though. Good source of vitamin C.