Letters to the Editor
wild_wife
Published Letters: 6
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Good answer Cary!
[Read the article: I'm afraid I'll be unfaithful to my husband]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Human sexuality and desire are so incredibly complex. How can one turn off one of their most basic desires just because one exchanges rings and vows with another person? Obviously, monogamy is not inherent to human nature, nor is it to the vast majority of any other species.
Cary is right on the money. Be honest from the get go. Your fiances reaction might just surprise you. The bisexuality might totally turn him on, but just beware that he may use it to control you. He may not be threatened by another p*ssy in the room, but anothr c*ck may push him over the edge.
As someone who has been through a lot of deception and hurt through a long marriage I truly believe honesty is the only path to a happy and fulfilling partnership.
Good luck to you, my heart goes out to you. Just please remember, that your desires will not be quelled just because you exchange rings. Isn't the point of getting married or committing to someone a desire to be open and honest with each other?
If your guy surprises you and is GGG, you need to be prepared to accept his desires as well.
Sorry if I'm repeating myself, but I do think monogamy is a social institution, constructed by *supposed* moral authoritarians who can't even trust themselves to keep their dicks in their own pants. I.e. the catholic church and pretty much all republicans.
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I am a poly female
[Read the article: I want more commitment from my married girlfriend]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I can love more than one person, but my husband is always the one I that will be there for me at the end of the day, year, decade. He wins the ultimate battle for my heart always.
I really feel for the LW because I can imagine what he is going through. Emotions are what they are and we cannot turn them off like a light switch. So lovely to hear the 78 + posters here have soooo much self control.
My marriage is open on one end, mine. Hubby doesn't desire outside relationships but endorses mine. I make it a rule that I do not have relationships with men who are cheating on their wives or significant others. To me, that is bad karma, but I am also cognizant that I am not the reason for their attempting to "cheat" on their partner.
I've read nothing in the letter that says her spouse ia aware of what's going on with the tow of them, so I can'y condone it, yet can't stone them to death either.
I just wish people would have more compassion for those who are in unconventional, uncomfortable relationships.
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If you can afford it, go to the wedding
[Read the article: I don't want to go to my college friend's wedding]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]There are a lot of surprisingly bonding moments at weddings, and unlikely bonds that form. The LW's husband may very well find someone in the bar that hates weddings as much as you both do and form a bond, his partener may feel the same way ... you all end up talking and then all of a sudden you find out they live two towns over from you.
This advice comes from experience. My husband and I have reclused ourselves for several different reasons for the past ten years. He doesn't enjoy meeting new people, and I'm a wild extrovert that looks at every new person I meet as a potential friend. We've come to compromise, that I do lots of social things without him. It sucks and is liberating (for me) all at the same time. I get to meet and have fun with lots of new people while he sits at home and sings "Glory Days" to himself.
The one thing I DO KNOW - is that strange things happen at weddings and funerals, and most of the are good. They provide us an opportunity to reflect on our own lives and and hopes and dreams.
Please LW take the chance to go and possibly meet new friends, reconnect with some of the old and be prepared to see that many of them are in the same boat that you are. Still sailing without a definite course, but looking forward to what they come across in their journey.
I shudder to think of all of the friendships I've dismissed or passed over through the years. I'm almost 45 and am lonely for longterm bonds.
You don't want to end up like me, one who has floundered many connections, just to find yourself bascally alone. It's not wasy to make friends at any age, but when you become older it does become more difficult.
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As usual, Svutlana rocks!
[Read the article: Roundup on gay marriage]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]She needs her own damn column here!
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The wife sounds like a cold fish
[Read the article: My wife left me because the dolphins at Sea World gave me an erection]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Throw her back and count youself lucky to have made it out alive!
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Just saying ...
[Read the article: "The woman's not stupid"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Didn't she only have four kids when she was mayor? The special needs one was born this past April, right?