Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 4 Editor's Choice: 1
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yes, you're crazy
[Read the article: Should strip-club bachelor parties be men-only?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]lw, you seem a little anti-woman yourself. "i know she'll be enjoying the exclusivity..." come on! so the chick's going to the bachelor party. big whoop! is it her fault she was invited? if she asked to go, is it her fault her best friend said yes? does she have some duty to womanhood not to go?
i'd be very surprised and miffed if my best friend didn't invite me to his bachelor party. once at his bachelor party, i wouldn't bore myself and everyone else by talking to the my friend and his friends about their girlfriends and wives. the girlfriends and wives are present enough when we're all hanging out. all to say, i have the sense that bachelor parties are not for girlfriend/wife talk.
what should really concern you is the possibility that the woman won't mention you wives/"typical women" at all. seriously, let's hope she brings you up.
what do you mean, by the way, by "typical women"?
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They were basically saying "I'm a mom" back in grade school
[Read the article: I get grossed out when I hear, "I'm a mom!"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'd say for argument's sake that about 20% of the new moms I know are prone to publicly identify themselves primarily as moms and talk enough about their status as moms to place them on the wrong side of the i'm-the-first-woman-to-have-ever-given-birth divide (the other 80% talking proudly about their young children, but not to the point of distraction; these 80% know that as parents they are having beautiful experiences, but don't presume to act as if they are the first and only ones in the world to have it).
What I notice about the few i'm-a-mom-moms I know is that they are just annoying people. Always have been. In other words, they are annoyingly new identity-toting and oddly obsessive now: "Hi. I'm a mom. I'm a mom. Can you believe I'm a mom??? Isn't it so cool that I'm a mom? Can you believe that's my son? He came out of me fifteen months ago! Have you washed your hands? When? Oh, just now? I didn't see you do it. Could you wash them again before you pick him up?" And they were annoying way back when too: obsessive, uptight, and in search of an identity that might stick. In a way, I can't blame any one of them for I'm-a-momming. They found just the right role and mantra to suit them.
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Don't Let It Go
[Read the article: The strange case of midnight renegade oleander gentrification camouflage]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I don't understand this letting go everybody always talks about. Somebody upset you? Let it go. Somebody offends you (or your neighbor)? Let it go. Feeling angry? Let it go. Everything but warm, mushy feelings... let it go.
LW, don't let it go. Next time you see her, tell the oleander-spreading neighbor that you just have to say that you find what she's done appalling and tell her why. Tell her oleander is poisonous. Tell her that you're going to talk with the other neighbor's son about all this and tell her how you plan to help him and his mother if he so wishes. Stand up. Tell her. You'll feel better and you'll put her in her place. People need to hear "no." People like her especially. Maybe you'll get an earful back. So have a lot of others who've done the right thing.
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me, i like to smoke now and again; but i'm addicted to fish oil.
[Read the article: I'm 21 and addicted to pot -- but I'm doing just great!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I wish there were more people like you in the world, LW. I specifically wish more of my colleagues were like you. Not in the am-I-smoking-too-much way, but in the I-smoke-and-it-works-for-me-in-many-ways-though-I-have-no-interest-in-being-a-stoner way.
The thing about pot is that as paranoid as it makes some people (people who don't smoke much, I guess), it has quite the opposite effect on others. Me, when I smoke, I think more freely, more associatively, I'm all about affinities. I become less concerned with logic and thus become more myself. That effect — the more one's self effect — holds true for a lot of people. Take it from a professor: being one's self and thinking associatively are both really useful to writing, say, a senior thesis.
So if you're more relaxed and creative and yourself for all your smoking, well, finish off your senior year with a nice, long puff. But keep tabs. Be aware of yourself. As Cary suggests, know your options.