Letters to the Editor
LeCastor
Published Letters: 1916 Editor's Choice: 86
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Not date a man with loafers?
[Read the article: The way to a man's heart is through a vacuum cleaner?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Well, I don't have a litmus test, but if I start dating a man, and I notice that he is a messy guy who doesn't know how to take care of himself (laundry, cooking, dishes, gross bathroom), that's a big minus, since if we move in together, it will be me cleaning up after him, and who wants to be a maid like that?! My bf vacuums and does laundry and cooks and waters the plants, i do the dishes and the bathroom. seems fair.
And c'mon people, there's a difference between having a sculpture of pizza boxes in the corner, and having some dust on your bookshelf. The former is not attractive to either gender, but the latter is no crime, and if someone is going to "subtract points" for stupid, literally superficial stuff like that, then they are OCD, of either gender, and that's a big minus too.
IVillage is just a place of stupid, conservative home-spun old wives tales' and dowdy advice.
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With an attitude and worldview like no name given
[Read the article: American woman, stay away from me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]it's no wonder he has to pay women to go anywhere with him, let alone share a meal or have sex.
to each his own of course. if no name simply prefers to only associate with women for hire (prostitutes in name, or in action), that's his choice. but not being able to have relationships with other people is pretty sociopathic.
you can have all the imaginary money and success in the world, no name, and yet it seems most of your social interaction is insulting strangers on the internet. classy.
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Weak
[Read the article: I'm in an arranged marriage but I think I want out]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]cary's advice shows his weakness, when faced with a completely different culture. so to respect it, he just shys away from the question.
well, the girl wrote to Cary, knowing who Cary is (liberal, non-Indian), so she knows to temper Cary's advice.
I think he let her down. Especially wtih the "have lots of children with a man you are not attracted to."
As for the doctor being "immature," it's very possible. At least Riya had two previous relationships -- he may have had none, and may have been worshipped all his life as the price of his family.
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What?!
[Read the article: I'm in an arranged marriage but I think I want out]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Riya writes to Cary for advice, and he just gives up, and the letters peanut galler is suggesting sticking it out wtih a man she's not attracted to and doesn't know, going to visit astrologers, have you people lost your minds because you don't want to "offend someone's culture"? She wrote for advice to salon, not to indianmarriageastrology.com.
On some letters sections here, 1 slap from anne lamont to her son gets her called a monster, people fight about women-only subway cars are progressive or regressive, chemistry and women are important and independentetc. People don't surrender their liberal values, and liberals are generally not supportive of american traditionalism, and abhorr it.
But, when faced with a tradition from such an "exotic" culture, from Asia, salon readers afraid to speak up for their ideals, and have a certain nostalgia or appreciation for this very foreign traditionaalism, because Asian cultures are so in vogue for liberals. well, hate to break it to you, people, but traditionalism is traditionalism, whether of the fundie christian or indian style.
My advice for Riya is to think long and hard about leaving this marriage -- certainly do not have children. If you find that he is simply unbearable -- his mere presence makes you nauseous because he reminds you of everything you hate about him and the world, then get out. I wouldn't try to make it work too hard -- you hardly know this guy. if you were dating him, and getting to know him, you could dump him at any minute if he were just not "right."
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The troll sinkhole
[Read the article: I'm in an arranged marriage but I think I want out]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]'Good Lord, Cary, Get a Life' snarks Aurelia
“... and a writing style. Or at least an editor, or somebody who has taught freshman English and can get you to cut out about half or two-thirds of the self-indulgent psychobabble.
It would be so nice to read advice that was actually based on the contents of the letter and not Cary's brilliant intuition--and was about the LW and not about Cary.
But I am tired today so perhaps that is why I am hypersensitive….”
Well, good Lord, Aurelia, perhaps you should get a grip on your profoundly unpleasant self. Sorry, babe, but there’s a reason people keep coming back here to seek his help. There’s something hilariously ironic about you writing a diatribe to an advice columnist – getting paid at least for his work – and telling him to get the life. Do tell, who’s forcing you to read him, anyway?
-- AQ
I suppose this could spiral out of control, right, because there's something hilariously ironic [that's kind of stupid] about you writing a diatribe to someone who wrote a diatribe to an advice columnist and telling her to get [a] life. Do tell, who's forcing you to read these letters, and then criticize and insult people for criticizing people?
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No Name Given
[Read the article: I know in my heart I'm going to leave my husband ... but when and how?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]1) I'm really curious about your magical powers. You somehow can figure out a person's weight through the internet. Drop whatever you're going (which seems to be a whole lot of nothing) and make this into a profitable business -- you could be rich, RICH!
2) I actually work in an investment bank, and there is no way that you do.
Evidence?
a) you don't really have a lot of logic skills,
b) you can't spell for shit,
c) you have so much time to post on salon,
d) you're incredibly rude,
e) you seem to have no social skills.
There is no way that any self-respecting bank would ever even let you onto a floor where others are speaking to clients, for fear of scaring the clients away. And there's no way in hell that you would be able to price a bond or put together a term sheet, with your lack of logic skills, and how much time you spend insulting people on the internet. Plus, your coworkers would hate your attitude so much that you would be let go.