Letters to the Editor
LeCastor
Published Letters: 1916 Editor's Choice: 86
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A first kiss must mean something too? Even if you're 12?
[Read the article: The 30-year-old virgins]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Deering,
I have to disagree. I think statistics show that by the end of high school, something like 52% of people have lost their virginity (average age is 17), but whatever, i'm just talking about a first kiss here. What is it going to mean to someone when they're 12 or 14, playing?
I really don't understand why even a first kiss must "mean something"! Imagine if people got this worked up about other things, like the first time you drive a car (which, very much like sex, might not be a very enjoyable experience), the first time you hold hands with someone, the first time you ask a girl out, does it all have to "mean something"? And this is why i'm saying that putting so much weight on this life event makes it so much harder for people to actually go through with it, because in our society, it's still considered something special, especially for women, something that must "mean something." And if you think about it, it's probably not going to be the first time you have an orgasm (which, arguably is much more meaningful), not going to be the first time you are intimate with someone, not the first time, eif you're a woman, that you will have something inside you, etc. It's just a made-up event, and people need to get over it as being something "special." that is just a vestige of religiosity and puritanism and traditional sexual mores -- that sexual or sexually-related events must be something special. We don't have this requirement for pretty much anything else.
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This woman and Dr. Laura should hang out
[Read the article: For his sake, fake it like you mean it!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Dr. Laura has a book called "The Care and Feeding of Husbands" which is pretty much the same stupid misandrist and misogynist claptrap: men are oafs and women are wiser and all around better and should take care of them.
Brightstar, anon, Robert Franklin & Co: I repeat, this is not feminism at all. This is completely at odds with feminism. If you don't like this kind of thinking, don't take it up with feminists, take it up with these conservative, home-spun bullshit housewify, traditionalist, status-quo promoting, man- and woman- hating morons.
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Oh brother, not again...:)
[Read the article: The 30-year-old virgins]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Women complain all guys are like this or that and therefore they claim to be disgusted with all of us men.
Hold on a minute. You basically say, "all women are X" and that's why you hate all women. Pot called, said "you're black, kettle."
But given a choice between two men, one who is practiced and polished and one who is a diamond in the rough, women will, 19 out of 20 times, choose the slick and polished guy over the less practiced guy.
Did you do a study?
I am not talking about a slick lounge lizard, but about a guy who says and does the right thing to get you interested in him. And as for the diamond in the rough, I am not talking about a fat guy, or someone who smells, but about a guy that might actually have OTHER THINGS to do than to learn to play the 'game' and spend all his time practicing picking up girls.
Oh please, the game is in itself often very unattractive to many people, men and women. Even though you mock it, you also want a woman who will do the right think to get you interested in her.
The reason the first guy is slick and knows what to say and what to do is because he has already been through 200-500 other women.
Um, you have some serious delusions about people.
What they say about women's intuition? That's all garbage. You are not a special goddess with super powers.
Agreed.
You will get taken over and over, and then get taken AGAIN by the polished guy and ignore the guy who is not so practiced and who is likely to be MORE GENUINE than the polished practiced clown.
Oh, now, let's not hate on the people who like to dress up and be attractive. Many of them are also quite "genuine." You're exhibiting a reverse of the prejudice you're condeming.
Normal men like me
Don't harbor any delusions about that either: the opinions you have on women and relationships are far from common.
When women complain about guys not calling back, or a guy not listening, it is because the women invariably remember the same 10% of SLICK guys that all THEIR friends have also dated. Mr. Slick has gone through ALL OF YOU and is on to the next girl, that is why he is not returning YOUR call.
Again, i don't know where you live, but it's a very narrow slice of life, if this is all you're witnessing.
This is one main reason THE VAST MAJORITY OF guys are SO disparaging of women. The playas KNOW how stupid women are in their choices, and the other guys KNOW they either have to find and channel their inner 'son of a bitch' and begin to play the 'game' the bastards are playing or else live a life ALONE and remain a virtual virgin themselves.
Absolutely untrue. This is just your rationalizations for not trying.