Letters to the Editor
LeCastor
Published Letters: 1916 Editor's Choice: 86
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Don't Marry a Career Woman, Second Part of Article
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]So why not just stay single? Because, academically speaking, a solid marriage has a host of benefits beyond just individual "happiness." There are broader social and health implications as well. According to a 2004 paper entitled "What Do Social Scientists Know About the Benefits of Marriage?" marriage is positively associated with "better outcomes for children under most circumstances," higher earnings for adult men, and "being married and being in a satisfying marriage are positively associated with health and negatively associated with mortality." In other words, a good marriage is associated with a higher income, a longer, healthier life and better-adjusted kids.
A word of caution, though: As with any social scientific study, it's important not to confuse correlation with causation. In other words, just because married folks are healthier than single people, it doesn't mean that marriage is causing the health gains. It could just be that healthier people are more likely to be married.
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My favorite part is
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]that "your house will be dirtier" if you marry a career woman, presumably based on a statistic that career women spend 1.9 hours less time doing housework per week than their non-career counterparts.
Of course, the logic is completely dumb, because
(1) Maybe a career women is simply more efficient in her housework because she's smart and driven, so the house won't actually be dirtier.
(2) Or, god forbid, maybe the husband could pick up some of the "slack" if option (!) isn't true. husbands still do a vast minority of housework.
(3) Or, if the husband is lazy, or working on his career too, maybe because both the husband and the wife have big career salaries, they could hire a housekeeper, which would probably make the house cleaner than if the wife cleaned it.
But noo, not in this mofo's world.
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Feeding Brightstar
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]I feed him, on occassion, when the mood strikes me. But usually he is rabid and nonsensical.
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You're Scared and Lazy, and Projecting
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]1) "Most of these feminist women are fugly, lonely, nazis, etc." Well, i think that's mostly projection. Come to any business school or law school -- these women are thin, hot AND smart. Walk around midtown manhattan at 9am, 12pm or 5pm, all these women swarming around, they're very pretty, very well dresssed, and many going to high-powered jobs. Maybe they don't come on salon.com letters to defend feminism, but they are living it. They develop their careers, they date/get engaged to/marry a variety of men, higher or lower-earning than themselves.
2) I think you men who argree with Forbes are just really scared, and lazy. Used to be, women would want to marry you, no matter what kind of a lazy, slobby unegaging, boring guy you were, because you, as a man, would have access to high-earning jobs and upward mobility, and the women wouldn't. You were in high demand, and you could be pretty awful and some woman would still want to marry you. But now, women have a lot of access to the most high-earning and respected jobs, so they don't need to latch on to a man to "be successful." Of course you're scared -- you've lost your monopoly on money and success, and to be attractive to women, you will have to try that much harder, and you're lazy, you don't want to learn how to clean the bathroom or make massamam curry chicken. It's completely understandable, but unless you change, you will be left behind. You'll have to scrape the bottom of the barrel to find women to marry, and these women won't be smart or interesting or high-earning, mostly just clingy and desperate.
good luck with that. :)
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Goals
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]Of course not, we never wanted to put career goals AHEAD of family goals. No PERSON should do that, man or woman.
Speak for yourself, moonbat. People do this all the time, and sometimes maybe it should be done.
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Putting Career Ahead of Family
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]Oh don't act all surprised! If you think about it, people do this all the time. Why does anyone strive for promotions, raises bonuses after attaining enough money to support themselves and possibly the res tof the family? Why does anyone go on business trips, secondments, work-abroad programs, executive MBA? Is it all just so they can pay for that baby formula and college? Surely, the people who earn hundreds of thousands of dollars don't need all that money to suppor their families, unless they have dozens of children and spouses.
An average law firm partner at the the 20th most prestigious firm in this country (according to the bible that is the vault.com guide to the top 100 firms) made $1.6 million dollars in 2005. At the 26th most prestigious, it was even closer to $2 million. No one needs that much money just to support their families. People accomplish these kinds of things for other reasons. Donald Trump does not do what he does to support his family.
As someone noted before, men have been putting their careers ahead of their families' wellbeing for decades, at least, and no one ever condemned them for it. In fact, they were pitied, because they didn't know their childdren very well, but it was viewed as a private choice by each male breadwinner, not a sin. But now that women are doing the same thing, it's open season for predicting the downfall of society and condemning these selfish selfish women from every angle. It's hypocritical, but understandable that society has this kind of reaction, because women are expected to sacrifice themselves for others -- family, husbands, children. But to not really have lives of their own.