Letters to the Editor
lexsali
Published Letters: 73 Editor's Choice: 9
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Stalemate
[Read the article: Looking for the perfect stranger ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Some people just love tearing everything down. A lot of people commenting are ignoring something: the author is not touting arranged marriage in India as the perfect solution, but just as an alternative that occurred to her. I mean, isn't that what great writing is? Writing about your own experiences, your thoughts, your personal dilemmas, etc.? Would you have her write about her perfect love story amidst the skyscrapers in New York, where she met her rich, handsome husband and promptly produced a half dozen bundles of joy, all the while climbing the corporate ladder and becoming CEO of her MNC? Yeah, the Realists and Successful Independent Feminists that surface on these Salon forums would love that one.
Ok, and let's be serious. The bar/club/party scene IS where most young people hook up. We are talking about metropolitan areas here, not rural America. That's how all of my friends and colleagues do it, weekend after weekend.
Trust me though, arranged marriage these days is not what it used to be. If there is a shortage of men, statistically, in the world, that translates to a shortage of men in the arranged marriage pool as well. Every system has shortcomings.
College is an excellent place to meet people, so I suggest anyone reading this while in college try their hardest to find someone before they get out. And not at those drunken frat parties either. I met my husband at the Pakistani Students' Association, a grad student who grew up in Pakistan and came here to study. I am lucky, and I know it, as I watch my sisters and friends suffer through the biodatas of less than desirable men (for them) and do the rounds in a system with a serious dearth of serious men.
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Why?
[Read the article: Second hottest girl in NYC a transsexual?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This conversation is not for those who don't believe in God; if you are reading this, it doesn't apply to you. But if you do, then I just don't know. If God wanted her to be a woman, she would have been born a woman. If God wanted her to be a man, she would have been born a man. She was born a man. It's possible that (this view is very common) God tests some of us by bringing people into this world as handicapped, mentally or physically or both, and this might be one of those tests, bringing people into this world that are mentally female and physically male. At that point, how you respond to those circumstances is your measure in God's eyes. Most people would have you battle your mind your entire life, remain male physically and do all that God asks you to do as a man, marry a woman, have children with her, provide for your family, etc. This would be a passing grade in God's book. But then you have to wonder, how are we to know? And how are you to be held responsible for your reactions if you are born in those circumstances through no fault of your own? After all, it's not fair, is it? It's not fair that everyone else has it so easy while you are constantly engaged in an internal battle. And if you make mistakes, if you change yourself, go against "God's will", are you really to blame? Shouldn't you be given leniency given that you had it so hard?
It's very confusing, this subject, and unfortunately leads me back to the same conclusion every time: Only God knows.
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Another thing
[Read the article: Second hottest girl in NYC a transsexual?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You have to wonder: why is that women keep getting born as men and not the other way around? Anecdotal evidence suggests that more men claim to be born in the wrong gender and become women through surgery than women that claim to be born in the wrong gender and become men. Why is that? Someone should study it!
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Laurel962 and Bigguns
[Read the article: Second hottest girl in NYC a transsexual?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Laurel- I agree! Plucking her eyebrows and drinking lots of water makes her more feminine than a woman born as a woman with the all the right biology? What a BS world we live in.
Bigguns- She never mentioned God! What the hell?! Don't put words in other people's mouths! Don't label people with opinions bigots just because they have the courage to voice them in this 'liberated' world.
That being said, why does she have to be a woman or a man? What's wrong with just being transgendered? I mean, there's nothing wrong with that, you can't control it, you were born that way. But don't force everyone to call you a woman, especially when it's clear to most people that you're not.
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Government interference
[Read the article: Sarah Palin's choice]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I remember Sarah Palin specifically stating in her speech at the RNC that average Americans could get on with their lives if "only the government would get out of our way!" Apparently, the government should only get out of her way, and let her make her decisions, and then deny everyone else the right to make theirs.