First of all, no way is this guy truly bisexual. Very few men are. In all likelihood, he's just gay. Telling his wife he is "bisexual" is just his way of coming out with training wheels. Within a year, this guy is out of his wife's bed and hooking up exclusively with other men. He'll never so much as sniff a vagina again. He's just so brainwashed with Bible mumbo-jumbo he can't admit he's straight-up gay.

He is, however, a dickhead who was on the verge of exposing his wife to god-knows-what kind of diseases by going out and fucking SOME RANDOM DUDE OFF THE INTERNET. He "chickened out" not because of the danger to his wife but because he didn't think he'd be able to get away with it.

Get this through your confused little head, LW. Your wife HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW if you are screwing around with other people. For her own protection. It's a life or death matter, potentially. If you're willing to subject her to that risk without her knowledge or consent, you are scum.

The wife shouldn't have a problem on two of those counts. If *any* person out there really believes that their significant other is only attracted to them, they are being astoundingly naive, or are just kidding themselves. Some people are attracted to one gender, some two. Some are attracted to one race, some are attracted to many different types of people. But nobody is attracted to only one person unless they are mentally ill. In fact, if you truly believe your S.O. is only attracted to you, they should probably get psychiatric help, and I am not being facetious. The only people attracted to one single person are psychopathic stalker types.

By the same token, rarely if ever does one person provide complete fulfillment to another. No one can be everything to anyone. If you're lucky, you are 90% fulfilled with your S.O., and that's good enough.

I agree that the LW was basically telegraphing his intention to cheat on her, but I don't think that's good enough. A wife in this situation might well decide to take her husband's words at face value - to believe him when he tells her he has these feelings but does not intend to act on them. As others have pointed out, it's not that different than knowing your S.O. is attracted to other people of your gender, but trusting that they won't act on it. Maybe such trust is ill-advised sometimes. But this LW is set to punish his wife for trusting him. Because he's a selfish asshole.

but neither McCain nor Obama would do much to counter it. McCain, however, has vowed to continue the disastrous policies of the current administration, and when your enemy is going completely insane, the last thing you want if you are AQ is for cooler heads to prevail.

Still, Islam is a disease, and it would be nice if we could do something to stop its cancerous spread and even work towards eradicating it (the *religion*, not the people) entirely. But, note to politicians: the way to do this is NOT to depose secular governments in the ME so they can be replaced with Islamic ones.

How about a correction already? "Should this dress be illegal?" NO ONE GOT ARRESTED FOR WEARING A DRESS.

A girl got arrested because she wouldn't leave when they told her to. Wow. Happens at the mall every weekend. But that's not really a story, is it?

That wouldn't give Salon an excuse to run a picture of a half-naked teenage girl, would it?

Pathetic. I blame Joan Walsh.

As soon as LW used "Himself" as a pseudonym for her boyfriend, it was impossible to give a rat's ass about her stupid non-problem. Congrats, you've read Infinite Jest. Now go Cheney yourself.

And Cary is doing an enormous disservice to the people who write in for advice, at least the one in five or so who actually have a problem and are not just twits trying to talk themselves up or rationalize their selfishness. Cary uses his advice column as an excuse for his amateurish creative writing exercises that could have come straight from an undergrad creative-writing major's "freewriting" journal. Every once in a while, somebody writes in who actually has a real problem. They are asking for help. What do they get? An always interminable, never insightful, narcissistic stream of consciousness mess.

AND HE GETS PAID FOR IT.

I can only hope he doesn't get paid very much, but something tells me that's not the case.

Someone needs to demand that the horse racing apologists stop having it both ways. They talk about how much they love the animals etc. etc., but when something bad happens they want to be able to fall back on the "it's just an animal" attitude.

At least the Romans didn't pretend to care about the welfare of the gladiators.

If you have a six-year-old daughter, and you are already thinking about her sexual "purity," you are fucking creepy.

I would bet money that a not-insignificant number of these fathers take their daughters home after the purity ball and sexually abuse them.

Cary's "advice" is often less than worthless, but this time out he was pretty good. The LW painted a portrait of a chaotic life, and it's hard to imagine her being able to think things through without paring things down a little first. Sometimes the best advice to give somebody concerns *how* they should make their decisions, rather than what decisions they should make.