Letters to the Editor

• Don't project too much of yourself into this

  [Read the article: I want a perfect wedding, but my in-laws are trashy]
  [Read more letters about this article: Here]

  Seems like a lot of people are taking sides based solely on whether this vague outline of a story fits with their own history and what role they played in that history. I can't believe how people are attacking the LW about the reference to the GED class without mentioning what is actually the issue: the brother met his girlfriend through another girlfriend's daughter. The GED class happens to be where the ex's daughter and the new girlfriend met. Anyone see a problem with chasing your gf's daughter's acquaintances? Maybe the 20 year old is fixing her life or maybe as the LW says, she is a freeloader using the pregnancy as a meal ticket. Who knows. But i like one commentor's suggestion of asking for no kids, particularly potentially screaming babies, at the ceremony and allowing them at the reception. Clearly, the 20 year old can't be all that selfless or gracious if she's saying that she's bringing the baby whether invited or not. I dont know whether the LW is bitter or if the 20 year old really is a freeloader. But anyone has the right to be annoyed that someone who bring a baby to their wedding uninvited. So deal graciously with the most urgent matter at hand - the baby at the wedding. And whatever annoys you about her, remember, you don't have to love her, you just have to be gracious to her and perhaps feel some sympathy for the cluelessness we all experienced, perhaps she more than others, when we were 20 and hope she outgrows it. As some other commenters have said, you'll face a lot more conflict and pain in life than this.

  Permalink Sunday, September 30, 2007 12:57 PM