Letters to the Editor
jb
Published Letters: 14 Editor's Choice: 4
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STD's
[Read the article: The Fix]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It's not only libelous but stupid to print. If they just did a minute of thinking, they'd realize this story made no sense. Brad and Jen stayed together for many months after Brad finished Mr. & Mrs. Smith. Wouldn't the rash have shown up earlier? And even after they officially separated, they lived together for another month or two and behaved like a couple. Again, is this the behavior of a woman who dumped her husband because she got an STD from him and his mistress? And when she did the Vanity Fair interview, she said she doesn't know anything for certain, but she chooses to believe her husband when he said nothing happened while he was filming with Angie. She even said in the VF article that she was "shocked" by seeing that they were together in those Africa pics. So again, she had no definitive proof of an sexual relationship prior to the pics coming out.
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you waited til now?
[Read the article: I think my baby is my ex's -- and my husband doesn't know]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]YOu knew at 20 weeks and if things were awful before the pregnancy how bad are they going to be now? Telling him at 20 weeks you could have decided what to do - have an abortion, keep it, put it up for adoption. But you wait 4 more months and now you realize you have to tell him? Good luck dealing with your husband's reaction. Dealing with your kids' medical issues is bad enough without the constant reminder of it being the child of the man your wife cheated on. Who knows, maybe your husband will be ok with it, but what happens when his own genetic child is born? will he favor it? I know someone whose wife cheated on him and he figured out over time his son wasn't his biologically. But he loved him and never told him. You never know.
You might want to tell your husband one last lie that won't compound over time - you found out that your ex is happily with another woman but is concerned about his medical history causing club feet and the like, hence your desire for a DNA test. Hopefully, he'll be so attached to the baby by then it won't matter. And "by then" I mean a few months or weeks. Don't drag it out. good luck.
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Gen X
[Read the article: The Gen Xers are driving me crazy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Actually, there's no clear definition of gen X - some say it was the generation from 1966 - 1978, so don't call the LW an idiot for not including the early 60s. Anyhoo, i'm a GEn X internet employee, but not all of us fit the prototype you described. It just sounds like you work somewhere where everyone reads Gawker all day or maybe even writes it. You have a problem with your coworkers, not an entire generation. And the problem Gen X blogs that are filling "your" Internet are just problems you're looking for, because of your annoyance at your coworkers. It's easy to obsess over something that bothers you when you have to deal with it all day every day. Hey, i still occasionally get "flashbacks" to the "trauma" that was the insane coworkers i had at my last job. It's much better now at my current job, but i sometimes attribute their "insanity" to the culture at the company; or the idea that they're all the personality type of the guy who hired them. But truth be told, it's probably that birds of a feather flock together. And a certain bird flocked to your job. So hang out with the cool Gen Yers you like, or get out.
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Lots of problems here
[Read the article: I gave up everything to be with my Russian husband and now I'm unhappy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]There are a lot of problems here that the commenters picked up on but not Cary. Cary of course just sees the writer's block that he can relate to. First, why haven't they looked into visas or other benefits for the spouse of an American? WHy have two people here already found out about schengen visas but the the couple hasn't? You'd think that with a master's and PhD in progress between them they'd know how to do a little research. Seems like what drew them together is their mutual tendency to inflate, rather than resolve, problems: she runs away from her writer's block by getting married, he deals with his problems by trying to make her as miserable as himself rather than uplifting both of them. As someone slavic background, this guy seems to be almost a comical stereotype of Russians as overdramatic and more eager to make others as miserable as themselves than to help everyone elevate themselves. The joke goes: a Russian was told by a genie he could have whatever he wanted but his neigbhor would get twice as much. Instead of asking for infinite wealth or health or wisdom, he asks the genie "to scare me half to death."