Letters to the Editor
Anne in NYC
Published Letters: 321 Editor's Choice: 37
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Rock of Love makes me feel so successful!
[Read the article: How crazy are women on reality television?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I love to hate that show. When I was about 10 Poison was my favorite band ever. Brett Michael’s was the hottest. I loved his big hair and his eye shadow. And I loved they way he went from that to his ‘Every Rose has it Thorn’ country phase – I think I can credit Poison for getting me into alt country.
But oh how the mighty have fallen! My dear Brett looks old, orange, puffy and crazy (what’s up with the wig, Brett?). And he really had awful taste in women. What a big joke. And that’s what the show is for me – a big joke that makes me feel superior. I think all reality TV is designed to make us feel superior. It’s fun to sit on the couch and judge others. Plus crazy people make for the best TV – you just never know when someone is going to throw a drink at someone else or grab her weave and give it a good yank. I know it’s trashy – but for whatever reason it cracks me up.
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@ Anita
[Read the article: Scenes from a group marriage]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]“Not sure who you are referring to as our icky, pervie brethren. I know the poly community fairly well, and I know hundreds of ethical, loving people making it work. I also hear of those who can't be honest and mess it up - it's certainly not for everyone. It takes a lot of integrity.”
In the same way that I am blind to your specific community (I’ve never known a poly person with kids) I think you are blind to a segment of your own community and the impact they have on defining who the poly community is to the rest of us. That surprises me because I would expect you to acknowledge those other people, who concentrate more on the sex and less on the family, and distance yourself from that.
The icky people I’m talking about go around trying to romance everyone they find attractive. How many of these people have I encountered? I can think of a half a dozen couples in as many years. In one incident the man in one of these couples was so aggressive with me that I actually became a little afraid of him and started avoiding places I knew he would be. I ended up speaking to his wife about it and she was not happy with her husband – apparently he comes on to all of her friends, she’d had the conversation I was having with her many times and it really brings her down. She cried and I felt awful – I was so glad when they moved away so I wouldn’t have to deal with all that drama. And I’m honestly telling you I’ve had similar experiences a handful of times. And it really is creepy. It’s not at all fun or sexy if that’s not your bag.
So I think, when you hear people saying mean or disrespectful things, you should remember the worst poly people you’ve ever known and then assume that’s the only poly person most of us have ever known.
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Well, I can’t watch the video at work...
[Read the article: Stone Age men fought over women]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]But I did read this article a couple of days ago. I think it was yesterday on Jezebel that one of he posters suggested that the women came back, found their men with strange women and killed them all. Not likely – but it goes to show that what we know about this mass grave isn’t much. It’s all guess work at this point.
But it's going to make one hell of a 'Secrets of the Dead' next year when we know more.
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except that the kids were killed too, only the adult women were spared.
[Read the article: Stone Age men fought over women]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I don’t think so. My understanding is there were adult woman in that mass grave – but those women were not from the same tribe as the men and children in the grave. It’s almost like an invading tribe came in, killed everyone save the adult women and then killed their own woman and tossed them into the grave – of course that’s just a wild guess on my part. Any one of 100 different things could have happened.
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Look right next to you (but past that drunk friend)
[Read the article: Why can't I find a relationship that will last?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I have a lot of female friends who could have written this letter. Last night I’m talking to one of them at a bar and she’s going on about one of my male friends and how much she liked him. And I’m thinking how completely inappropriate this guy is for her. She just likes the look of him (he is cute) and has gotten all excited about nothing.
And meanwhile, sitting next to us, is one of the most wonderful single guys I’ve ever known. He’s sweet and geeky and really popular – problem is he needs someone to take him shoe shopping, get a decent hair cut and get a stylish pair of glasses. I’m not saying he needs fixing – rather I think he’d appreciate a little female attention and it would make all the difference. And I know he likes the woman who is going on and on about this other guy.
It sort of reminds me of another male friend: smart, skinny, geeky and a bit of a jerk (but in that funny, charming way). He had the worst hair cut. I mean the worst. He traveled in my social circle with lots of female 30-somethings and, I’m not kidding, these women made fun of him. Well he meet a nice girl who made an appointment for him with her stylist and now all my girlfriends are all heart-broken that he’s now ‘taken’ by this new woman. I had a friend in collage with that same story – once he got that haircut he had to beat the ladies off with a stick.
So don’t be so quick to dismiss. Try to look a little deeper. I know for a fact there are lots of terrific single 30-something guys out there.